Children Learn What They Live

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Workman Publishing, Jan 5, 1998 - Family & Relationships - 240 pages
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Dorothy Law Nolte, a lifelong teacher and lecturer on family dynamics, presents a simple but powerful guide to parenting the old-fashioned way: instilling values through example. Dr. Nolte-s inspirationˇ?Children Learn What They Live,O the celebrated poem she wrote in 1954. Written with psychotherapist Rachel Harris, each of the 19 couplets of the poem is developed into a chapterˇon jealousy, shame, praise, recognition, honesty, fairness, tolerance, and more. Positive, realistic, filled with a rare common sense, it is a book to help parents find their own parenting wisdom, and to raise children with a surer, steadier, more understanding hand.


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Excellent-I give a copy to the parents of each new baby in the family. It is filled with common sense approaches that are based on Christian principles that help guide parents in child rearing that we often neglect today. Read full review


If children live with criticism they learn to condemn
If children live with hostility they learn to fight
If children live with fear they learn to be apprehensive
If children live with pity they learn to feel sorry for themselves
If children live with ridicule they learn to feel shy
If children live with jealousy they learn to feel envy
If children live with shame they learn to feel guilty
If children live with encouragement they learn confidence
If children live with acceptance they learn to love
If children live with approval they learn to like themselves
If children live with recognition they learn it is good to have a goal
If children live with sharing they learn generosity
If children live with honesty they learn truthfulness
If children live with fairness they learn justice
If children live with kindness and consideration they learn respect
If children live with security they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them

If children live with tolerance they learn patience
If children live with praise they learn appreciation
If children live with friendliness they learn the world is a nice place in which to live

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About the author (1998)

Rachel Harris, L.C.S.W., Ph.D., is a psychotherapist who completed postgraduate training in family therapy and parenting education. She lives with her teenage daughter in Princeton, New Jersey. Rachel has know Dorothy Law Nolte for almost 30 years as teaching associates and co-workers.

Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D. is a lifelong teacher and lecturer on family life education, and is the author of the poem "Children Learn What They Live," which has been translated into 20 languages and is used the world over by parents and educators. The mother of three, grandmother of three, and great grandmother of five, she lives and works in southern California.

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