Codes of Love: How to Rethink Your Family and Remake Your Life

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Pocket Books, 1999 - Self-Help - 291 pages
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"What if you were loved more than you know?"

Mark Bryan's work is bringing families together. He was a member of Oprah Winfrey's 1999 "Change Your Life" team and a regular on her show, where he reunites parents and children. Now, counselor, educator, and cofounder of The Artist's Way Workshops, Mark Bryan offers a book that will help all of us get closer to our family members and achieve deeper intimacy by cracking the

"Codes of Love"

As a counselor, Bryan reconnects parents and grown children despite the pain, bitterness, and anger when the work begins. In helping families find buried closeness, Bryan has learned many lessons about what it takes to open people's hearts. He shares these lessons here -- as well as his own family story, which he weaves throughout the book, a story that poignantly illustrates how reconnection is more than possible, even after years of separation.

Bryan's key insight is that families often communicate love in code, using words, actions, and behaviors that not only may obscure love but sometimes get interpreted as love's opposite. Messages of affection, caring, and concern may be sent in ways that other family members read as negative judgments, efforts to control and undermine. Gaps in communication cause the messages to get lost or distorted in transit. These gaps result from generational and life differences, contrasting emotional and conversational styles, "interference" from a legacy of past conflicts, and other factors. If you can decode your family's messages of love and affection, from the past and from today, you can open the door to richer family ties.

"Codes of Love" is a guidebook that offers the basic tools for creatingbetter relationships with parents, siblings, grown sons and daughters, spouses, even old friends -- all the loved ones in your life. Bryan explores why family affection so often gets buried or forgotten, then shows us how to recover warmth and rebuild family bonds. He gives readers the necessary tools to crack the codes of love in their own families and discover intimate connections they may not have known existed.

"What if you can love more than you know?"

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This book is not another empty self-help book but a workbook for studious, quiet thought and analysis. Bryan (The Prodigal Father) draws on his personal struggles in his efforts to create a self ... Read full review

Contents

Coming Home
1
From Tragedy to Comedy
27
Remember
54
Copyright

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Mark Bryan is a Harvard-trained educator with a specialty in human development and psychology. He is the cofounder, with Julia Cameron, of the original Artist's Way Workshops, a creativity course that has helped more than a million people more effectively realize their potential. In addition to being the author of The Prodigal Father: Reuniting Fathers and Their Children (1997), he is lead author of The Artist's Way at Work (1998), a book that translates the theories and practices of The Artist's Way into corporate America. One of five "Change Your Life" experts who appeared regularly in 1999 on the Oprah Winfrey Show, Bryan is currently director of the Father Project in Los Angeles, California, a private foundation that works to bridge the gap between fathers, mothers, and children of separated families. A member of Al Gore's National Practitioners Network for Fathers and Families and a former member of the Massachusetts Governor's task force on father absence, Bryan has helped forge new family legislation in several states.

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