Conflict in Intimate Relationships

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Guilford Press, 1992 - Language Arts & Disciplines - 148 pages
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Why is the potential for conflict so great for intimate partners? This volume integrates research from psychology, sociology, communications, and family studies to provide a comprehensive, practical synthesis of findings concerning conflict in close personal relationships. Combining discussion of both theory and practice, the volume illuminates why conflict occurs frequently between friends, romantic partners, distressed couples, and divorcing spouses, and also offers professionals a framework for understanding conflict as they try to help defuse strife.

The book establishes conflict as a process that lies dormant in any mutually dependent relationship. Depending on the partners' strategies in conflict, the potential for disagreement can quickly become a real obstacle between them and can even threaten to end the relationship. To better determine the source of stress, three different research paradigms are presented to explain the conflict process and why it occurs, as well as to suggest what can be done to help partners manage conflict and preserve intimacy.

The systems-interactionists' approach is presented first. This section discusses methods used to characterize destructive and constructive communication behavior patterns and strategies for dispute resolution. Next, the rules-interventionist approach examines ways in which a mediator can help divorcing couples end one relationship and begin another. Finally, the cognitive-exchange approach is considered. Methods used to determine the antecedent conditions which influence partners' reactions during conflict are presented and approaches for helping them modify destructive communication strategies are discussed. Throughout, terminology and measurements are made to correspond across disciplines so that the work is accessible to all.

In addition to relating particular studies and research programs to their appropriate research approaches, the book shows how conflict is uniquely handled when distressed partners engage in problem solving, when disputing partners engage in mediation, and when same and opposite sex partners participate in developing relationships. Comparison and contrast emphasize the role played by conflict communication behavior, rules, and strategies found in developing intimate relationships, the destructive conflict characteristic of emotionally distressed couples, and the bargaining/negotiation characteristic of formal mediation.

Drawing together the wide array of research on the topic in a user-friendly format, this book is an ideal resource for any investigator interested in distressed relationships. Offering practical methodology firmly founded in theory, it is invaluable reading for clinicians working with people in conflict. The book also serves as a text for advanced undergraduate and graduate students of conflict in interpersonal relationships, and as supplementary reading for a variety of courses where conflict is a focus of study.

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Introduction An Overview of Theory and Research on Conflict in Intimate Relationships
What of Conflict Between Intimates?
Understanding Theory and Research
Three Research Paradigms
The SystemsInteractionist Perspective on Couples Conflict Communication
Supporting Research within a SystemInteractionist Approach
Helping Couples Resolve Issues and Improve Their Intimate Relationship
Helping Divorce Spouses Settle Disputes
The CognitiveExchange Perspective on Conflict in Developing Intimate Relationships
Supporting Research within a CognitiveExchange Approach
Educating Intimate Partners about How to Manage Conflicts

The RulesInterventionist Perspective on Divorce Mediation
Supporting Research Within a RulesInterventionist Approach
Author Index
Subject Index

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About the author (1992)

Dudley D. Cahn, Ph.D., is a professor of communication at the State University of New York, College at New Paltz. He is certified by the state of New York as a mediator at the Ulster County community mediation center in New Paltz and at the Family Court in Kingston, NY. The author of Letting Go: A Practical Theory of Relationship Disengagement and Reengagement, he is coauthor of Communication in Interpersonal Relationships, and editor of Intimates in Conflict: A Communication Perspective. Named a distinguished lecturer at an international communication convention in Norwich, England and a distinguished scholar by the Yugoslav Center for Post Graduate Studies in Dubrovnik, Dr. Cahn received recognition as a Fulbright Scholar in 1987. He is a member of the International Association for Conflict Management and the International Network on Personal Relationships.

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