Couples in Conflict: A Family Systems Approach to Marriage Counseling

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Fortress Press, 2010 - Religion - 272 pages
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Couples in Conflict describes the nature of the emotional processes leading to difficulties and how a minister/ counselor can be a resource to help couples in conflict. The minister/counselor will be able to help them improve their lives personally, as well as their relationship and family life. By extension, couples will also develop skills that will improve their work life and their life in community. The book provides practical and specific approaches to helping these couples and the issues that a minister must deal with in order to be useful to them.
 

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Contents

A New Way of Caring
3
The Importance of Theory
4
A Brief History of Bowen Family Systems Theory
6
The Family as an Emotional Unit
7
Thinking about People in Their Emotional Context
8
Systems Thinking Theology Causation and the Counselors Role
11
Emotional Systems
15
Emotion Thinking and Feeling in the Bowen Theory
17
Assessing for Physical Abuse and Fighting
114
Goals for the Counseling Process
119
Altering the Emotional Climate
122
Being in Charge of Process
123
Tracking the Relational Process
126
Exploring Reactivity
127
Interruptions and Being in Charge of the InOffice Process
132
Increasing SelfFocus
133

Togetherness and Individuality
21
Anxiety and the Emotional System
25
Two Kinds of Anxiety
26
Anxiety and Fusion
27
Anxiety and the Two Life Forces
29
Differentiation of Self
33
Fusion and Closeness Or Two Is Do Not Make a We
34
My Definition of Closeness
35
What Is Differentiation of Self?
36
The Differentiation Continuum
39
Triangles
45
Some Examples of Triangles
46
The CloseDistant Dance and the Origin of Triangles
48
Fluid and Fixed Triangles
53
Neutrality
58
The Emotional Development of a Couple and a Family
61
The Two Become One?
63
Faith and Marriage
64
The Family Life Cycle
65
Sibling Position
66
Symptomatic Mechanisms
69
Emotional Distance
70
Marital Conflict
72
Over and Underfunctioning Reciprocity and Personal Dysfunction
74
Projection of Anxiety to a Child
77
The Triangular Relationship
78
The Counseling Relationship in the Bowen Theory
85
Bowen Theory Counseling and Individual Problems
86
Emotional Latitude and Differentiation
87
The Counselors Family History
89
The Counseling Relationship in a Larger Perspective
90
The Assumed and Assigned Importance of a Significant Other
91
Bowens Different Approach
93
The Expression of Feelings in Counseling
94
Counseling as Coaching
95
Neutrality and Pastoral Caring
96
Getting Started and Assessing the Couple
99
Avoiding Secrets
101
Dual Relationships
102
Doing Assessments
103
Assessment Criteria for Moderate and Severe Marital Conflict
111
Engaging Both Partners and Resistance
134
Shifting the Relationship Process
135
Thinking about Family
137
Addressing the Triangles in Counseling
141
Defining and Managing Self in the Counseling Triangle
142
Working with the Couples Triangles
144
Some Examples of Marital Triangles
146
Triangles and Change
149
The Affair Triangle
151
Opening Communication
155
The Counseling Process Beginning Phase
157
The Essence of Change
160
Starting to Develop SelfFocus
161
The Transition to MiddlePhase Counseling
173
Looking at Marthas Hurt
174
Working with Marthas Bitterness
178
The Next Session and Marthas Emptiness
181
A Turning Point with Martha and Old Family History
183
Some Specific Aspects of the Transition Phase
186
A Spiritual Crisis
188
The Move Toward Family and Unresolved Emotional Attachment
191
The Counseling Process Middle Phase
195
Getting Ready for FamilyofOrigin Work
197
Coaching George on His Family Work
198
Martha Goes Further into Her Emotional Cutoff
203
Coaching FamilyofOrigin Work
211
Reentering the Family as a Researcher
212
Developing a Multigenerational Family Diagram
215
Differentiation and Triangles
216
Special Points of Concern for Coaching
218
The Counseling Process The Termination Phase
223
Termination in Later Phases of the Work
225
Ending with George and Martha
227
Rethinking Beliefs and Values
228
On Character
231
Family Diagram Symbols
237
Training Programs in Bowen Family Systems Theory
239
Selected Bibliography
241
Index
243
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