Dealing with people you can't stand: how to bring out the best in people at their worst

Front Cover
It may be a boss who behaves like a bully and a petty tyrant, and has the power to get away with it ... It may be a co-worker who promises results, but who never, ever delivers when the chips are down ... It may be the whiner whose constant complaining and maddening negativism are driving you crazy ... At best, when people act like this, they can make life exceedingly stressful and unpleasant. At worst, they can keep you from achieving important goals. The good news is that you don't have to let them do either! Whether you know it or not, it's fully within your power to bring out the best behavior in people who are at their worst. Sound impossible? It's not. Just ask the 250,000 people who have already benefited from Dr. Rick Brinkman and Dr. Rick Kirschner's proven, innovative seminars on dealing with difficult people with tact and skill. They have already learned, as you will when you study this one-of-a-kind guide, how to identify 10 recognizable difficult behaviors, and deal successfully with each of them! You'll discover how difficult people think, what they fear, and why they act as they do; why difficulty, more often than not, is in the eye of the beholder, and how to turn this little-known truism to your own advantage; how to use advanced, sophisticated "listening techniques" to unlock the doors to people's minds, hearts, and deepest needs; and how to cultivate nine "take-charge" skills that turn conflict into cooperation by reducing the differences between people. What's more, you'll be given specific strategies for successfully handling the 10 Most Unwanted difficult behaviors that you, or anyone else, will ever encounter on the job ... including: . The Tank: Pushy andruthless; expect no mercy. The Sniper: This covert operator identifies your weaknesses and snipes at you behind your back or even to your face. The Know-It-All: These people know 98% of absolutely everything. Just ask them! The Grenade: When the pin is pulled and they blow their top, they're unable to stop and the shrapnel hits everyone in sight. The Maybe person: This fence sitter puts off crucial decisions until it's too late. The Nothing person: You never know where they stand, what they think, what they are feeling because they just say, "...........".. And many more!

From inside the book

What people are saying - Write a review

User ratings

5 stars
4 stars
3 stars
2 stars
1 star

LibraryThing Review

User Review  - KatKealy - LibraryThing

I thought this might have some interesting tips, but it wasn't very useful. Nothing new or interesting and not written that well. There are many better books out there about getting along with others. Read full review

LibraryThing Review

User Review  - MrsTalksTooMuch - LibraryThing

This was alright. I am not a huge fan of categorizing people and acting as if what works for one will work for all. And I guess if you need a book to tell you that being compassionate will help you to get along with people, maybe this is something you should check out. Read full review


Getting to Know the People
Its a Question of Balance

11 other sections not shown

Other editions - View all

Common terms and phrases

About the author (1994)

Dr. Rick Kirschner and Dr. Rick Brinkman are two of the world's most influential, and entertaining, communication and life management experts. Licensed holistic physicians, they have appeared on hundreds of television and radio programs and been featured in more than 200 newspapers, including the Wall Street Journal. "The Two Ricks" are coauthors of the bestselling audio and video tapes How to Deal with Difficult People, Telecare, and others, along with the bestselling books Dealing with People You Can't Stand, Dealing with Relatives, Life by Design, and Love Thy Customer. Their unique seminars and video training products have garnered rave reviews from clients including IBM, ATT, LucasFilm, Quaker Oats, the U.S. Army, and numerous other organizations.

Kirschner is a naturopathic physician, professional speaker, and trainer who performs over 150 programs a year all over the world.

Bibliographic information