Dear John, I Love Jane: Women Write about Leaving Men for Women

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Seal Press, Oct 19, 2010 - Biography & Autobiography - 272 pages
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The new buzzword in female sexuality is "sexual fluidity"-the idea that for many women, sexual identity can shift over time, often in the direction of same-sex relationships. Examples abound in popular culture, from actress Cynthia Nixon, who left her male partner of 15 years to be with a woman, to writer and comedienne Carol Leifer, who divorced her husband for the same reason. In a culture increasingly open to accepting this fluidity, Dear John, I Love Jane is a timely, fiercely candid exploration of female sexuality and personal choice. The book is comprised of essays written by a broad spectrum of women, including a number of well-known writers and personalities. Their stories are sometimes funny, sometimes painful-but always achingly honest-accounts of leaving a man for a woman, and the consequences of making such a choice. Arousing, inspiring, bawdy, bold, and heartfelt, Dear John, I Love Jane is an engrossing reflection of a new era of female sexuality.
 

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I've read a lot of lesbian and queer literature before, but this collection really fills a niche that needed attention. Lots of books about queer people leave out sexual fluidity, and that sexual ... Read full review

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This book had been on my wishlist for a while, and when the Kindle version was discounted to $0.99, I couldn't resist snapping this book up - and it was definitely worth the wait. Although the ... Read full review

Contents

Foreword
7
Introduction
11
Undoing Everything
21
Running from the Paper Eye
25
The Right Fit
36
Wanting
47
Watershed
54
Over the Fence
64
The Claim
156
Wedding Gown Closet
166
Clarity
176
Credit in the UnStraight World
184
First Date with Ann
189
Living the Authentic Life
197
A Door Opening Out
202
We Dont Do Stereotypes
213

Leap of Faith
75
Navigating the Spaces between In and Out
86
This Love Is Messy
99
Walking a Tightrope in High Heels
109
A Hushed Blue Underworld
118
Beyond Sexuality
126
Love and Freedom
134
Memoirs of a Wanton Prude
141
I Knew What I Was Giving Up
148
Counting Down from Ten
222
Marriage Mirage
231
Falling for Leah
236
Mirror Image
244
Epilogue
253
Bios
256
About the Editors
267
Acknowledgments
268
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About the author (2010)

Candace Walsh is a writer, poet, and editor living in Santa Fe. She co-founded and edited Mamalicious magazine, and she is the articles and poetry editor at Mothering magazine.

Laura André received her PhD from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. A former Assistant Professor of Art History at the University of New Mexico, she now works for a bookseller specializing in photography books. Together with two dogs, she live in Albuquerque.