Equally Shared Parenting: Rewriting the Rules for a New Generation of Parents

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Penguin, Jan 5, 2010 - Family & Relationships - 304 pages
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This Is Parenting on Your Own Terms 

Chances are, you'd rather not forfeit your happy, rested life the moment you become a parent. As a mom, you may want to keep your career, but aren't sure how to balance it with housework and childcare. As a dad, you probably want to witness your child's milestones, but a demanding job may get in the way. And what about time for yourself (never mind your sex life)? 

Marc and Amy Vachon were determined to beat this scenario when their first child was born. They vowed to sidestep the world's expectations of new parents and create a parenthood model that worked for them. Their strategy was to share everything-the good and the bad. They became peers in each area of parenthood: childcare, housework, and breadwinning. They also made time for themselves, and for each other. They shared the burdens so nobody was overwhelmed, and the joys so neither missed out on the fun. 

Drawing on Marc and Amy's experiences, as well as those of dozens of ESP couples, Equally Shared Parenting shows you how to create a balanced life that is rarely experienced by today's parents. It's not just about who vacuums and who does the dishes, or who brings in the paycheck and who tends to the kids. You'll learn how to look at every aspect of parenthood, money, careers, and your individual needs, so you can build a life that works for you both.

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Parents and the brains behind EquallySharedParenting.com, Marc Vachon and Amy Vachon describe equally shared parenting (ESP) as the "purposeful practice of two parents sharing equally in the four ... Read full review


A Shared Vision
Going the Distance
Owning the Dream
Lets Make a Few Things Perfectly Clear
The Typical ESP Family
What Is ESP Equality?
Half the Work
Half the Responsibility
Everyday Equal Breadwinning
It Isnt Luck
Your Best Work
How Not to Share Housework
Jointly Defining the Tasks
Sharing the Work
Perks of Equal Housework
Everyday Execution

Half the Power
The Equality Foundation
The Real Comparison
The Good Stuff
Putting It All Together
The Truth About Balance
A Bird in the Hand
Permission to Play
The Balance Foundation
A Team of Two
Equal Childraising for Mothers
Equal Childraising for Fathers
Putting It Together
Equally Shared Childraisingin Action
Childraising Tasks
The Artisanal Worker
Equal Breadwinning for Men
Equal Breadwinning for Women
Bending Both Careers Half as Much
Getting That Yes
Getting That Yes from Day One
Home Tasks
Getting Personal and Messy
Taking Responsibility
Crushing the Guilt
Coordinating Your Time
The Circle of Enjoyment
Self Activities
Earning Money
Spending Money
Breaking the Money Barrier
The Mommy Club
The Daddy Pass
Scaling the Society Barrier Toward Activism
Strength in Numbers
Internal ESP
The Youngest Owners
Full Ownership
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Marc and Amy Vachon are the founders of EquallySharedParenting.com. Their work has been covered by the New York Times, Boston Globe, Guardian (UK), Fitness Magazine, the Today show, and other media.

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