Fatherless Daughters: Turning the Pain of Loss Into the Power of Forgiveness

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Simon and Schuster, Aug 18, 2009 - Family & Relationships - 319 pages
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A moving, elegantly written, impressively researched book about what it means to lose a father to death or divorce, with advice for fatherless daughters on how to cope.

• An important topic: many books have been written about parental loss—specifically mother loss on daughters and father loss on sons—but few have explored the profound emotional, intellectual, and physical effects of father loss on girls. These effects can be devastating, coloring a fatherless daughter’s attitudes on love, marriage, parenting, career, and physical and emotional well-being. Fatherless Daughters brings this problem out of the shadows and helps women clearly see how father loss has affected their lives and what they can do about it.

• A mosaic of perspectives: Pamela Thomas, whose own father died when she was ten years old, interviewed more than 100 women who have lost their fathers in a variety of circumstances—through death, divorce, and abandonment— and at every age, from birth to late teens. Each story is unique (and many of them are included here, including the author’s own), but the common threads that run through them will inspire both recognition and relief in readers.

• Prescriptive and supportive: Divided into four sections—“ Fathering,” “Shock,” “Aftershock,” and “Coming to Terms”—Fatherless Daughters traces the experience of growing up without a father from the initial trauma of losing him, to the reverberations years later that reflect the impact of his loss. Thomas offers advice on ways women can come to terms with their loss, including getting to know one’s lost father, even if he has passed away. Filled with wisdom, Fatherless Daughters guides readers through their pain to a place of strength, hope, and grace.
 

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Contents

snapshots of my Father
3
so Whats a Father?
18
PArT ii
37
The Time in a Girls life
67
The mom Factor and other Family matters
91
PArT iii
121
our Bodies our Dads
149
love and sex sex and love
156
mourning
213
Getting to Know Your Dad
237
healing
261
starting Fresh
275
Final Images
289
Notes
297
Bibliography
303
Index
311

The Dilemmas of Work
193

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About the author (2009)

Pamela Thomas has been a writer and book editor for many years and is currently a children s book editor at Sesame Workshop. She lives in New York City.

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