Forgiving Our Grownup Children
Every family that laughs must cry as well. Despite the best of intentions, no family can live up to the artificial sitcom standards of normality. Whether the cause is unrealistic expectations or cruel abuse, no family grows into a loving entity without experiencing real, heartfelt pain.For years, adults have been encouraged to look back -- to trace the problems of their new lives to the frustrations and trials of growing up. However, once these adults trace their pain back to their parents, they rarely are given constructive outlets for turning the disappointments of the past into hope for forging healthy relationships with their parents. Instead, parents are often made to feel like scapegoats who are to blame for everything.Instead of reversing the blame, Forgiving Our Grownup Children helps parents come to terms with their imperfect parenting of imperfect children. This sensibly written book is filled with examples of parents and adult children who recognize and admit their limitations and mistakes. An insightful, helpful aid for families still aching from the wounds of the past, Forgiving Our Grownup Children offers constructive answers for families in search of healing.
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A New Focus on Parents and Grownup Children
The Blame Game
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