Getting Over Getting Mad: Positive Ways to Manage Anger in Your Most Important Relationships

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Conari Press, Mar 1, 2001 - Family & Relationships - 175 pages
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With society increasingly held hostage to stress, conflict, and violence, the issue of anger is getting lots of attention. Couples, families, schools, and workplaces are all focusing attention on anger and how to effectively deal with it.

In contrast to books that analyze the causes of anger or discuss the issue on a societal level, Getting Over Getting Mad provides us with inspiration and suggestions for making positive changes in ourselves and our relationships. The book's primary emphasis is on prevention, encouraging us to deal with stress, frustration, tantrums, and annoyances quickly, before these disturbances sour feelings and burn bridges. The book also gives concrete suggestions for handling anger in ongoing difficult situations, and chronicles the author's own experiences as a therapist and workshop leader.

 

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Contents

I Have Plenty to Be Mad About And So Do You
1
In the Presence of Yourself
5
Frown Freely
7
Uncover the Hurt
9
Give Yourself Permission to Be Human
11
See Anger as a Blessing
13
Be Courageous about Your Imperfections
15
Focus on Your True Nature
17
Set Each Other Straight
91
Apologize
92
Forgive When Its Time
94
Bask in the Thrill of Making Up
96
In the Presence of Children
99
Acknowledge When Your Child Is Mad About Something
101
Be a Feeling Detective
103
Teach Talking versus Biting
104

Take Care of Yourself
18
Get to Know the Little Devil Within
20
Move Out of Uproar
21
Learn Spiritual Lessons from Anger
23
Walk the Higher Road
25
Find the Fear
27
Take Grudges to the Dump
29
Confess Your Anger
31
Beat a Drum Play a Piano Dance
32
Cry
34
Shout Outside Scream in the Shower
36
Howl at the Moon
37
Run Around the Block
39
Sit on the Ground
40
Lie on Your Back
42
Kick and Make a Noise
43
Look to the Sky Pray for Direction
44
Say Yes and No Frequently
46
Say Goodbye to Baggage
48
Bring on Forgiveness
50
Select an Antidote to Anger
52
Join the Secret Society of Satisfied Souls
54
In the Presence of Your Sweetheart
57
See Relationships as a Great School
59
Learn from Arguing with Your Partner
60
Recognize the Value of Anger
62
Pin the Blame on the Donkey
63
Create a Safety Zone
65
Intend to Stay Connected
67
Use the Practical Approach
69
Give Yourself and Your Loved One Freedom
71
Watch Out for Time Bombs
72
Throw Out Old Patterns
74
Master Conflict Not Your Partner
76
Pause
78
Work It Through on Your Own First
79
Master Timing
80
Seek a Joint Perspective
81
Admit It
82
Avoid Revenge
83
Lighten Up
84
Move to Easy Street
85
Turn Arguments into Intimate Dialogue
86
Use Magical Phrases
88
Experience the Contentment of Letting Go
90
Know That What You Say Does Matter
106
Say Yes to Talking No to Punching
107
Recognize the Spectrum of Anger
109
Stop the Ripple Effect
112
Remove Harmful Shame
113
Deal with Your Child Directly
115
Listen to Your Childs Complaints
117
First Give Understanding
119
Respond to I Hate You
120
Stay Close
122
Acknowledge Grief
124
Throw Rocks in Water Throw a Ball Play Kick the Can
126
Hammer Nails
127
Paint a Mad Picture
128
Be Smarter Than the Bullies
130
Coach and Check Back
131
Take Five Steps to a FaceSaving Dialogue
133
Be Aware That Children Are Watching
134
Recognize Warning Signs
136
Use Talking Sticks
138
Take a Time Out Take a Time In
140
Pledge to Do No Harm
141
Stay Open to a Fresh Perspective
142
In the Presence of Colleagues
145
Learn Positive SelfAssertion
147
Pay Attention to Your Needs
149
Find Meaning in Your Work
151
Lead with Gentleness
153
Respond
154
Use Neutral and Deescalating Language
155
Practice Good Manners
157
Watch Your Attitude
158
Stick Up for Yourself
159
Be Determined
161
Clarify the Conflict
162
Dont Be Outraged Be Outrageous
163
Stay with the Discomfort
165
Get Over Road Rage
166
Identify Your Hot Buttons
168
Give Yourself Breathing Space
169
Spread Heavenly Gossip
171
Resource Guide
173
Acknowledgments
177
About the Author
179
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With over half a million copies of her books in print, Judy Ford, M.S.W. is the best-selling author of Conari's Wonderful Ways books, which include Wonderful Ways to Love a Teen, Wonderful Ways to Love a Child, Wonderful Ways to Be a Family, Wonderful Ways to Love a Grandchild, and Wonderful Ways to Be a Stepparent. Co-author with her daughter Amanda of Between Mother & Daughter, she lives in Washington state.

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