Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples

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Macmillan, 2001 - Family & Relationships - 303 pages
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The bestselling guide to transforming an intimate relationship into a lasting source of love and companionship., with a new foreword and chapter from the author
In "Getting the Love You Want," Dr. Harville Hendrix presents the relationship skills that have already helped hundreds of thousands of couples to replace confrontation and criticism with a healing process of mutual growth and support. This extraordinary practical guide describes the revolutionary technique of Imago Relationship Therapy, which combines a number of disciplines--including the behavioral sciences, depth psychology, cognitive therapy, and Gestalt therapy, among others-- to create a program to resolve conflict and renew communication and passion.
"Getting the Love You Want" describes the three stages of intimate relationships, provides illustrative case studies and gives helpful recommendations to overcome the obstacles in those stages to create a stronger bond between couples. First, he chronicles the stages of most relationships-attraction, romantic love and the power struggle-and suggests ways for partners to identify the conflicts associated with each of them. Then, he explores methods for achieving a "Conscious Marriage," where the early phases of romance are rekindled and confrontation is slowly replaced by growth and support. Finally, Dr. Hendrix incorporates these ideas into a unique therapeutic course, offering a series of proven exercises that lead to insight, resolution and revitalization. Step by step, he describes how to communicate with greater accuracy and sensitivity, how to let go of self-defeating behaviors, and how to focus energy on meeting each partners' needs.
With" Getting the Love You Want" couples in any stage of a relationship can resolve their conflicts and achieve mutual emotional satisfaction.
 

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I read this book as a resource because Im a therapist who works with couples. HOWEVER I found the information to be extremely useful for me personally. It was easy for me to address couples issues ... Read full review

Excellent book for couples

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This book was a fun read and it had very insightful information. We both read it. We have been married for 6 years and we have been very happy. However we are encountering the greatest challenge of ... Read full review

Contents

The Conscious Marriage
81
and Your Partner
131
Defining Your Curriculum
157
Containing Rage
176
Portrait of Two Marriages
203
Ten Steps Toward a Conscious Marriage
247
Your Relationship Vision
253
Childhood Wounds
255
The NoExit Decision
264
Reromanticizing
267
The Surprise List
270
The Fun List
271
Stretching
272
Container Transaction
275
Container Days
276
SelfIntegration
277

Imago Workup
256
Childhood Frustrations
257
Partner Profile
258
Unfinished Business
260
The Couples Dialogue
261
Visualization of Love
280
Seeking Professional Help
281
5
285
Bibliography
299
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About the author (2001)

Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., has more than thirty-five years of experience as an educator and therapist. He specializes in working with couples in private practice, teaching marital therapy to therapists, and conducting couples workshops across the country. Dr. Hendrix is the co-founder with his wife, Helen Lakelly Hunt, and president of the Institute for Imago Relationship Therapy, based in Winter Park, Florida.

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