Getting to Commitment: Overcoming the 8 Greatest Obstacles to Lasting Connection (And Finding the Courage to Love)

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M. Evans, 1998 - Family & Relationships - 255 pages
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Commitment. We all say it is what we want. Yet long-term love continues to elude us and confuse us. We say we are starving for a real and sincere connection to another person. Even so, too often we are our own worst enemies -- sabotaging and undermining our chances. In the most simple language, we don't know how to make and keep the connections that matter most: We focus on the wrong partners; we run away from real possibility. As we form relationships we discover it's difficult to make good choices. It's difficult to be trusting, vulnerable, faithful, and honest.Carter and Sokol coined the term "commitmentphobia." They also wrote the definitive book on the fear of commitment -- Men Who Can't Love. Getting to Commitment takes the next step, offering concrete solutions for finding and keeping long-term love.In Getting to Commitment, readers will learn how to overcome the eight greatest obstacles to lasting connection: Stop Blaming Others; Say Goodbye to Your Ghosts; Find and Fight for theSelf; Stay Grounded in Reality; Allow Yourself to Be Known; Learn the Lessons of Acceptance; Blaze a New Trail; Handle Your Anxieties.Falling in love and staying in love requires its own kind of heroism. Our hearts have to be brave as well as loving. That's because it takes real courage to love; it take real courage to make a commitment. This book is about finding that courage.

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Carter has devoted himself to dealing with the problems and rewards of relationships for the past twenty years.

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