Give Yourself the Answers Instead of Asking Questions: Improve Your Communication Skills, Improve Your Relationships

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Tate Publishing, Sep 1, 2009 - Psychology - 187 pages
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Go one day without asking a question and your life may change forever. This is the challenge that Dr. Eric Dlugokinski suggests in Give Yourself the Answers Instead of Asking Questions. Although it is a popular notion that questions are an essential and integral part of rich and sensitive communication, Dlugokinski illustrates how there are often inappropriate or 'deadly' questions that disrupt healthy relating. Those 'deadly' questions occur when the speaker asks someone a question that they themselves need to answer. 'Deadly' questions can bring chaos to parenting, deferred development for children, lack of intimacy to personal relationships, limited efficiency and productivity in the work setting, and limitations in the ability for self-direction and the direction of others. Through case examples Dlugokinski illustrates how readers can acquire greater personal understanding and acceptance, a key to communicating more effectively and intimately with others. As readers Give Themselves the Answers Instead of Asking Questions, they learn to value the unique person they are, live proactively, and improve their relationships with others.

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About the author (2009)

Eric Dlugokinski is a Licensed Psychologist and Professor Emeritus at the University of Oklahoma. During the early years in Oklahoma he was mentored by Povl Toussieng, M.D., who sparked his career-long interest in the destructive emotional impact of inappropriate questions. Eric has authored over 25 books in Mental Health Education and has served as a columnist for the Daily Oklahoman and Woman's World. Currently he has a private practice of psychotherapy in Oklahoma City and teaches courses in Human Emotions and Communications at military bases around the world. He is married to Lesley, who is also a Licensed Psychologist, and has two sons and five grandchildren.

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