Goodenoughmothering: The Best of the Blog

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Xlibris Corporation, 2012 - Family & Relationships - 200 pages
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This book is a selection of short articles that appeared during a two year period as posts on the blog, goodenoughmothering.com. Author, Dr. Elaine Heffner, has been involved in parent education for many years. In this book she addresses many of the concerns of mothers in particular, and discusses many of the questions they ask her. The issues addressed here are divided into six categories: "Mother Worries", "Developmental Steps", "Conflicts", "Feelings", "About Parents" and "Social Pressures". For example, "Mother Worries" includes such topics as the wish of mothers to be perfect, the guilt they feel about their handling of their children, and the anger that is aroused by children's provocative behavior. "Developmental Steps" covers such topics as setting "User Friendly Limits" for children, their difficulties with transitions, and aggression. Dr. Heffner points up the role of parents in setting expectations that match children's developmental capabilities at various stages. The focus is on parents' own ability to help children over what she calls "bumps" in development. The section on "Conflicts" discusses the confrontations that arise between parents and children due to the conflict between the wishes and needs of each. An understanding of these differences is offered as a means of helping to avoid or resolve such conflicts. The section on "Feelings" points up the feelings that children stir-up in parents which are a significant factor in the confrontations that arise. The ways in which parents can address children's feelings is also addressed. The sections "About Parents" and "Social Pressures" discusses many of the criticisms that have been leveled at parents in recent years, much of it based on developmental research, and points out the many areas in which parents need to feel comfortable using their own judgment. The book offers parents new ways in which to understand their children which can help them answer many of their own questions. Understanding, not prescriptive advice is the underlying theme of the book.
 

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Contents

Introduction
13
Mothers Guilt
17
Nobodys Perfect
20
Is This Normal?
23
No Fault Mothering
25
Expectations
31
Fidgeters
34
Starting School
37
A Mixed Blessing
109
I Need It
115
Getting Real About Feelings
118
Reassurance That Is Real
121
Too Hard To Talk About
124
How Bad Is Mad?
126
Siblings
129
More About Siblings
132

User Friendly Limits
40
The Expert Dawdlers
43
More About Transitions
46
Poop Talk
49
Playing By The Rules
52
Apologies
55
Aggression
58
More About Happiness
61
Really Smart?
64
If Only
67
Sticky Stickers
70
Helping Children Learn
73
Confrontation
79
Drawing The Line
82
The Illusion of Control
85
Discipline Is Teaching
88
Needs Or Wants? Part one
91
Needs or Wants? Part two
94
Traitors Throat
97
Are Chinese Mothers Superior?
100
Working and Mothering
103
Choices
106
Doctor Lawyer Indian Chief
137
Ghosts
140
All I Need To Know
143
A Dad Moment
146
Praise A Parent
149
Parent Values
152
Do As I Do
155
Ask Dr Mom
157
What About Fathers?
160
Please and ThankYou
163
True Grit
166
Using Judgment
169
Trust Your Judgment
175
Entitled?
178
Competition
181
Race To The Top
184
More Praise For Parents
187
Too Many Virtues
190
How Much Is Too Much?
193
The Blame Game
196
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