He's Just Not that Into You: The No-excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

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Element, 2005 - Communication - 201 pages
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He says:
Oh sure, they say they're busy. They say that they didn't have even a moment in their insanely busy day to pick up the phone. It was just "that crazy." All lies. With the advent of cell phones and speed dialing, it is almost impossible not to call you. Sometimes I call people from my pants pocket when I don't even mean to. If I were into you, you would be the bright spot in my horribly busy day. Which would be a day that I would never be too busy to call you.
She says:
There is something great about knowing that my only job is to be as happy as I can be about my life, and feel as good as I can about myself, and to lead as full and eventful a life as I can, so that it doesn't ever feel like I'm just waiting around for some guy to ask me out. And most importantly, it's good for us all to remember that we don't need to scheme and plot, or beg anyone to ask us out. We're fantastic.
For ages women have come together over coffee, cocktails, or late-night phone chats to analyze the puzzling behavior of men.
"He's afraid to get hurt again.
Maybe he doesn't want to ruin the friendship.
Maybe he's intimidated by me.
He just got out of a relationship."
Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo are here to say that -- despite good intentions -- you're wasting your time. Men are not complicated, although they'd like you to think they are. And there are no mixed messages.
The truth may be "He's just not that into you."
Unfortunately guys are too terrified to ever directly tell a woman, "You're not the one." But their actions absolutely show how they feel.
"He's Just Not That Into You" -- based on a popular episode of "Sex and the City" -- educates otherwise smart women on how to tell when a guy just doesn't like them enough, so they can stop wasting time making excuses for a dead-end relationship.
Reexamining familiar scenarios and classic mindsets that keep us in unsatisfying relationships, Behrendt and Tuccillo's wise and wry understanding of the sexes spares women hours of waiting by the phone, obsessing over the details with sympathetic girlfriends, and hoping his mixed messages really mean "I'm in love with you and want to be with you."
"He's Just Not That Into You" is provocative, hilarious, and, above all, intoxicatingly liberating. It deserves a place on every woman's night table. It knows you're a beautiful, smart, funny woman who deserves better. The next time you feel the need to start "figuring him out," consider the glorious thought that maybe "He's just not that into you." And then set yourself loose to go find the one who is.

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User Review  - phoibee - LibraryThing

A self-help book for women to understand if their guys are into or just not that into them. If a guy's into you, he will call you and will do anything just to see you. He will make things happen ... Read full review

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User Review  - Leticia.Toraci - LibraryThing

I read this book as research for a novel I'm writing and, ouch, the truth hurts. Finally a book with no nonsense approach to dating. It's a bit harsh, but so it's dating life. In any case I wished I had read this book as a teenager, it would have helped me avoid a lot of traps. Read full review

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About the author (2005)

Comedian Greg Behrendt was a consultant for three consecutive seasons on Sex and the City. His acclaimed stand-up comedy has been seen on HBO, The Tonight Show, Late Show with David Letterman and Late Night with Conan O'Brien. He lives in Los Angeles.

Liz Tuccillo was the executive story editor of HBO's Emmy-winning Sex and the City and has also written for Off Broadway. She lives in New York City

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