He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

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Simon and Schuster, Oct 7, 2004 - Family & Relationships - 176 pages
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He’s Just Not That Into You—based on a popular episode of Sex and the City—is tough love advice for otherwise smart women on how to tell when a guy just doesn’t like them enough, so they can stop wasting time making excuses for a dead-end relationship. It’s the best relationship advice you’ll ever receive.

For ages, women have come together over coffee, cocktails, or late-night phone chats to analyze the puzzling behavior of men.

He’s afraid to get hurt again.
Maybe he doesn’t want to ruin the friendship.
Maybe he’s intimidated by me.
He just got out of a relationship.

Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo are here to say that—despite good intentions—you’re wasting your time. Men are not complicated, although they’d like you to think they are. And there are no mixed messages.

The truth may be, He’s just not that into you.

Unfortunately, guys are too terrified to ever directly tell a woman, “You're not the one.” But their actions absolutely show how they feel.

Reexamining familiar scenarios and classic mindsets that keep us in unsatisfying relationships, Behrendt and Tuccillo’s wise and wry understanding of the sexes spares women hours of waiting by the phone, obsessing over the details with sympathetic girlfriends, and hoping his mixed messages really mean, “I’m in love with you and want to be with you.”

He’s Just Not That Into You is provocative, hilarious, and, above all, intoxicatingly liberating. It deserves a place on every woman’s night table. It knows you’re a beautiful, smart, funny woman who deserves better. The next time you feel the need to start “figuring him out,” consider the glorious thought that maybe, He’s just not that into you. And then set yourself loose to go find the one who is.

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User Review  - phoibee - LibraryThing

A self-help book for women to understand if their guys are into or just not that into them. If a guy's into you, he will call you and will do anything just to see you. He will make things happen ... Read full review

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User Review  - Leticia.Toraci - LibraryThing

I read this book as research for a novel I'm writing and, ouch, the truth hurts. Finally a book with no nonsense approach to dating. It's a bit harsh, but so it's dating life. In any case I wished I had read this book as a teenager, it would have helped me avoid a lot of traps. Read full review

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Introduction by Liz
Introduction by Greg
You Are All Dating the Same Guy
1 Hes Just Not That Into You If Hes Not Asking You Out
2 Hes Just Not That Into You If Hes Not Calling You
3 Hes Just Not That Into You If Hes Not Dating You
4 Hes Just Not That Into You If Hes Not Having Sex with You
5 Hes Just Not That Into You If Hes Having Sex with Someone Else
8 Hes Just Not That Into You If Hes Breaking Up with You
9 Hes Just Not That Into You If Hes Disappeared on You
10 Hes Just Not That Into You If Hes Married and Other Insane Variations of Being Unavailable
11 Hes Just Not That Into You If Hes a Selfish Jerk a Bully or a Really Big Freak
12 Dont Listen to These Stories
13 Now What Do You Do?
14 QA with Greg
15 Closing Remarks from Greg

6 Hes Just Not That Into You If He Only Wants to See You When Hes Drunk
7 Hes Just Not That Into You If He Doesnt Want to Marry You
16 Closing Remarks from Liz

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Page 9 - Greg, men run the world,'" writes author Greg Behrendt. "Wow. That makes us sound pretty capable. So tell me, why would you think we were incapable of something as simple as picking up the phone and asking you out? You seem to think at times that we're 'too shy' or we 'just got out of something.' Let me remind you: Men find it very satisfying to get what they want. (Particularly after a difficult day of running the world.) If we want you, we will find you.

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Comedian Greg Behrendt was a consultant for three consecutive seasons on Sex and the City. His acclaimed stand-up comedy has been seen on HBO, Comedy Central Presents..., The Tonight Show, Late Show with David Letterman, and Late Night with Conan O'Brien. He lives in Los Angeles with his wife and daughter.

Liz Tuccillo was an executive story editor of HBO's Emmy-winning Sex and the City and has also written for Off Broadway. She is currently living and dating in New York City.

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