He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

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Simon and Schuster, Oct 7, 2004 - Family & Relationships - 176 pages
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He’s Just Not That Into You—based on a popular episode of Sex and the City—is tough love advice for otherwise smart women on how to tell when a guy just doesn’t like them enough, so they can stop wasting time making excuses for a dead-end relationship. It’s the best relationship advice you’ll ever receive.

For ages, women have come together over coffee, cocktails, or late-night phone chats to analyze the puzzling behavior of men.

He’s afraid to get hurt again.
Maybe he doesn’t want to ruin the friendship.
Maybe he’s intimidated by me.
He just got out of a relationship.


Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo are here to say that—despite good intentions—you’re wasting your time. Men are not complicated, although they’d like you to think they are. And there are no mixed messages.

The truth may be, He’s just not that into you.

Unfortunately, guys are too terrified to ever directly tell a woman, “You're not the one.” But their actions absolutely show how they feel.

Reexamining familiar scenarios and classic mindsets that keep us in unsatisfying relationships, Behrendt and Tuccillo’s wise and wry understanding of the sexes spares women hours of waiting by the phone, obsessing over the details with sympathetic girlfriends, and hoping his mixed messages really mean, “I’m in love with you and want to be with you.”

He’s Just Not That Into You is provocative, hilarious, and, above all, intoxicatingly liberating. It deserves a place on every woman’s night table. It knows you’re a beautiful, smart, funny woman who deserves better. The next time you feel the need to start “figuring him out,” consider the glorious thought that maybe, He’s just not that into you. And then set yourself loose to go find the one who is.
 

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User Review  - Vickie J. - Overstock.com

Excellent insight into what you dont know about the way guys tell you how they feel. Also tells you how to fix your thought process on some. Be prepared to find out hes just not that into you!! Read full review

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A quick, funny, very "girl power" read. But honestly? There was some good stuff in here, like about having realistic expectations and taking an honest look at the relationship/situation that you are ... Read full review

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Contents

Introduction by Liz
1
Introduction by Greg
4
You Are All Dating the Same Guy
7
1 Hes Just Not That Into You If Hes Not Asking You Out
9
2 Hes Just Not That Into You If Hes Not Calling You
23
3 Hes Just Not That Into You If Hes Not Dating You
36
4 Hes Just Not That Into You If Hes Not Having Sex with You
47
5 Hes Just Not That Into You If Hes Having Sex with Someone Else
59
8 Hes Just Not That Into You If Hes Breaking Up with You
93
9 Hes Just Not That Into You If Hes Disappeared on You
108
10 Hes Just Not That Into You If Hes Married and Other Insane Variations of Being Unavailable
119
11 Hes Just Not That Into You If Hes a Selfish Jerk a Bully or a Really Big Freak
130
12 Dont Listen to These Stories
150
13 Now What Do You Do?
151
14 QA with Greg
156
15 Closing Remarks from Greg
160

6 Hes Just Not That Into You If He Only Wants to See You When Hes Drunk
70
7 Hes Just Not That Into You If He Doesnt Want to Marry You
79
16 Closing Remarks from Liz
163
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Page 9 - Greg, men run the world,'" writes author Greg Behrendt. "Wow. That makes us sound pretty capable. So tell me, why would you think we were incapable of something as simple as picking up the phone and asking you out? You seem to think at times that we're 'too shy' or we 'just got out of something.' Let me remind you: Men find it very satisfying to get what they want. (Particularly after a difficult day of running the world.) If we want you, we will find you.

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Comedian Greg Behrendt was a consultant for three consecutive seasons on Sex and the City. His acclaimed stand-up comedy has been seen on HBO, Comedy Central Presents..., The Tonight Show, Late Show with David Letterman, and Late Night with Conan O'Brien. He lives in Los Angeles with his wife and daughter.

Liz Tuccillo was an executive story editor of HBO's Emmy-winning Sex and the City and has also written for Off Broadway. She is currently living and dating in New York City.

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