How it feels to have a gay or lesbian parent: a book by kids for kids of all ages

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Harrington Park Press, Jul 28, 2004 - Family & Relationships - 110 pages
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Sometimes I fantasize about having a magic wand. How awesome it would be to wave it and completely eliminate prejudice, hate, and ignorance. Just imagine what it would be like to live in a world like that. How It Feels to Have a Gay or Lesbian Parent: A Book by Kids for Kids of All Ages gives voice to the thoughts, feelings, and experiences of children, adolescents, and young adults who have a gay or lesbian parent. In their own words, they talk openly and candidly about how and when they learned of their parent's sexual orientation and the effect it had on them--and their families. Their stories echo themes of prejudice and harassment, conflict and confusion, adaptation and adjustment, and hope for tolerance and a family that can exist in harmony. Because it's an issue for other people, it becomes an issue for me. I'm angry about the way it works against me.” The stories told in How It Feels to Have a Gay or Lesbian Parent not only reflect the day-to-day struggle of children with a GLBT parent, they also reveal the pain inherent in high-conflict divorce and child custody cases. Children of gay/lesbian parents ranging in age from seven to 31 recall the confusion and grief created when the disclosure of their parent's true sexual orientation ended a marriage and divided a family. The straight” parent's resentment can lead to angry remarks that--intentionally or unintentionally--disparage the gay/lesbian parent and threaten the natural love and affection the child feels for both. I guess the hardest part about having a gay dad is that no matter how okay you are with it, there's always going to be someone who will dislike you because of it.” The one-on-one interviews presented in How It Feels to Have a Gay or Lesbian Parent document first-hand the effects of homophobia on family life. Children struggle with the choice between living in a closet, shamed by peers and family members, or dealing with discrimination as a parent's sexual orientation is used against them. Taken together, these stories make a statement for acceptance, understanding, and tolerance as children do their best to make the transition from a traditional family to a nontraditional lifestyle. My mom is a normal person just like everyone else. The only thing that's different about her is that she's gay and if you can't deal with it, you're just going to have to live with it.” How It Feels to Have a Gay or Lesbian Parent: A Book by Kids for Kids of All Ages offers comfort and support to children from those who share their journey. The book is a valuable aid for practitioners working with children of GLBT parents and an educational tool for GLBT adults considering children.

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This is a book of stories by kids who have had a parent come out AFTER being married to their straight parent and how it affected them. Im sure it would be handy for children of divorced parents where ... Read full review

Contents

Chris Age Seventeen
1
Keila Age Seven
5
Meredith Age Twenty
9
Trisha Age Twelve
13
Taylor Age Eight Justin Age Ten
17
Ruth Age Twenty
21
Angel Age Seven
25
Sophia Age Thirteen
27
Alanna Age Eight
59
Lydia Age TwentyFive
61
Andrew Age Thirteen
65
Chloe Age Ten
67
Clara Age Twenty
71
Rickey Age Fourteen
77
Nathan Age Sixteen Rachel Age Eighteen
79
Renee Age TwentyEight
81

Jarod Age TwentySix
31
Miranda Age Seven Lilly Age Nine and Avery Age Eleven
37
Erin Age Fourteen
41
Stacey Age Eighteen
43
Tara Age Thirteen
45
Kelly Age Twenty
47
Ally Age Ten
51
Nicole Age ThirtyOne
53
Brian Age Eighteen
83
Bernadette Age Fifteen
87
Jamie Age Eighteen
91
Alicia Age Sixteen
95
Summary
99
Resource Guide
103
Index
105
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