How to Control Your Anger Before It Controls You

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Citadel Press, 1998 - Self-Help - 179 pages
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Anger is universal. Unchecked, it can cause lasting damage in our lives: wrecked relationships, lost jobs, even serious disease. All of us have acted in anger -- and often wished we hadn't. Is there a way that really works to solve problems and assert ourselves without being angry? The answer is a resounding yes, if you follow the breakthrough precepts of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) set forth in this book.

Dr. Albert Ellis and Dr. Raymond Chip Tafrate present here their proven approach to helping people deal effectively with emotional problems and show you how to use their techniques to systematically understand the roots and nature of your anger. Using easy-to-master instructions and exercises, readers can learn to live unhysterically in an often difficult and unfair world. REBT will reduce angry reactions and help to challenge and eliminate the anger that can frustrate success and happiness at home, at work, anywhere.

 

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It has only been very recently that I have realized my anger is a bad thing. I have finally admitted to myself it has been such. According to Ellis's rational emotive behavior therapy, anger is one of the "unhealthy" emotions because it is based on "musts, shoulds, and oughts". Great explanations presented in here and though an academic, Ellis is excellent at making his writings very accessible to all without sacrificing any meaning or content whatsoever. I found his forms in the back of the book to be particularly helpful I'm finally convinced that indeed I need to get over my anger.  

Contents

The Grim Costs of Anger
1
Myths About How to Deal With Your Anger
18
REBT and the ABCs of Anger
27
Rational and Irrational Aspects of Anger
33
Discovering Your RageCreating Beliefs
39
Special Insights Into Your SelfAngering Beliefs
47
Disputing Your SelfAngering Beliefs
51
More Ways of Thinking Yourself Out of Your Anger
53
Learning to Relax
92
Still More Ways of Thinking Yourself Out of Your
103
Additional Ways of Reducing Your Anger
124
Accepting Yourself With Your Anger
144
A Few Concluding Remarks
151
REBT SelfHelp Form
153
Selected References
159
Index
175

Feeling Your Way Out of Your Anger
63
Acting Your Way Out of Your Anger
72

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Albert Ellis was a clinical psychologist and a marriage counselor. He was born on September 27, 1913 in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. Ellis originated the rational-emotive therapy movement, which ignores Freudian theories and advocates the belief that emotions come from conscious thought "as well as internalized ideas of which the individual may be unaware." At first, Ellis' books on marital romance and sexuality were criticized by some as being radical and sensational; however, few realized that Ellis was merely laying the groundwork for modern sex education. Ellis was educated at the City College of New York Downtown and at Columbia University, where he received a Ph.D. in psychology in 1943. He taught for a number of years at Rutgers University, New Jersey, and the Union Graduate School. He was executive director of the Institute for Rational Living, Inc., in New York City. Ellis was the author of Sex and the Liberated Man, Sex Without Guilt, and Sex Without Guilt in the Twenty-First Century. Despite his health issues, Ellis never stopped working with the assistance of his wife, Australian psychologist Debbie Joffe Ellis. In April 2006, Ellis was hospitalized with pneumonia, and had to stay in either the hospital or the rehabilitation facility. He eventually returned to his home --- the top floor of the Albert Ellis Institute. He died there on July 24, 2007 in his wife's arms. Ellis had authored and co-authored more than 80 books and 1200 articles during his lifetime. He was 93 when he died.

Tafrate is a clinical psychologist.

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