I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression

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Simon and Schuster, Mar 11, 1999 - Self-Help - 384 pages
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A revolutionary and hopeful look at depression as a silent epidemic in men that manifests as workaholism, alcoholism, rage, difficulty with intimacy, and abusive behavior by the cofounder of Harvard’s Gender Research Project.

Twenty years of experience treating men and their families has convinced psychotherapist Terrence Real that depression is a silent epidemic in men—that men hide their condition from family, friends, and themselves to avoid the stigma of depression’s “un-manliness.” Problems that we think of as typically male—difficulty with intimacy, workaholism, alcoholism, abusive behavior, and rage—are really attempts to escape depression. And these escape attempts only hurt the people men love and pass their condition on to their children.

This groundbreaking book is the “pathway out of darkness” that these men and their families seek. Real reveals how men can unearth their pain, heal themselves, restore relationships, and break the legacy of abuse. He mixes penetrating analysis with compelling tales of his patients and even his own experiences with depression as the son of a violent, depressed father and the father of two young sons.
 

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I dont Want to Talk About It

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The book arrived promptly and in perfect condition. I would reccommend this book to anyone who counsels or lives with men. It takes an educated point of view on a subject that effects most every ... Read full review

I don't want to talk about it: overcoming the secret legacy of male depression

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Real, a psychologist with 20 years of experience treating men and their families, begins with a poignant scene of his father starting to open up and share the pain of his life. From there, Real ... Read full review

Contents

Prologue
15
Mens Hidden Depression
21
SelfEsteem Shame and Depression
43
Covert Depression and Addiction
59
Trauma and Biology
87
Perpetrating Masculinity
113
The Loss of the Relational
137
Collateral Damage
161
Two Inner Children
193
Healing the Legacy
229
Healing Ourselves
263
Healing Our Relationships
291
Where We Stand
321
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Terrence Real is a psychotherapist in private practice. He has taught couples and family therapy, principally at the Family Institute of Cambridge, for twenty years. He lives with his wife and two sons in Newton, Massachusetts.

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