If You Really Loved Me

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Science & Behavior Books, Incorporated, Apr 1, 1996 - Family & Relationships - 154 pages
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Do you ever find yourself thinking: If you really loved me you would know what I want ... If you really loved me you would always want me with you ... If you really loved me you would agree with me ... In [this book, the author] tackles those everyday frustrations that cause arguments and confusion, lead to endless misunderstandings, and sabotage joy in relationships. [The author] has found that the source of a relationship's trouble often involves love knots or those hidden expectations and assumptions or beliefs that we bring to intimate relationships. [The author] examines many of the most dangerous relationship traps such as: The invisible contract, overlooking each other's terms for intimacy; The revolving ledger: unknowingly expecting each other to make up for past hurts; The negative infinity loop: triggering each other's "emotional allergies"; Love knots: hidden beliefs or assumptions that ruin relationships; Double binds: setting up no-win situations.-Back cover.

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Contents

If You Really Loved Me
8
The Evening News IO 3 Its My Style
12
Take Me Away
14
Ugly Duckling
16
Thanks for the Memory
18
The Birthday
20
Home Alone
22
Stingy Santa
24
Love Me Knot
62
The Single Dilemma
70
Sure You Do
72
You Dont Fool Me
74
Dont Air Your Dirty Linen
76
Ton of Bricks
78
If I Have To Tell You
80
Ignorance Is Bliss
82

The Gilded Chain
26
Heavyweight Champ
28
Keeping Up with the Joneses
30
Masquerade
32
The Judge
34
The Handyman
36
Perfecto the Indestructible
38
On Your Own
40
The Nerve
42
Twelve Steps
44
45 The Octopus
45
If Only
46
Not Me
48
Hair Shirt
50
Pandoras Box
52
Need Knot
54
Better Safe than Sorry
56
Knew It
58
Assume
60
Sad Sack
84
Amazing Kreskin the Mind Reader
86
Heads You Win Tails I Lose
88
The Price Is Too High
90
The Good Servant
92
Porcupines
94
Gotta Be Me
95
Hide and Seek
96
Push Me Pull You
98
Strings Attached
102
Strangers in a Strange Land
104
Contents Pressurized
106
CoDependency
108
Me and My Shadow no 51 Beat It
112
What Now?
117
The Price We Pay
135
Epilogue
145
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