Imperfect Control: Our Lifelong Struggles With Power and Surrender

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Simon and Schuster, 1999 - Psychology - 448 pages
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In her remarkable national bestseller, Necessary Losses, Judith Viorst explored how we are shaped by the various losses we experience throughout our lives. Now, in her wise and perceptive new book, Imperfect Control, she shows us how our sense of self and all our important relationships are colored by our struggles over control: over wanting it and taking it, loving it and fearing it, and figuring out when the time has come to surrender it.
Writing with compassion, acute psychological insight, and a touch of her trademark humor, Viorst invites us to contemplate the limits and possibilities of our control. She shows us how our lives can be shaped by our actions and our choices. She reminds us, too, that we sometimes should choose to let go. And she encourages us to find our own best balance between power and surrender.

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IMPERFECT CONTROL: Our Lifelong Struggles with Power and Surrender

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Oh, what a lovely book—popular psychology at its best: a multifaceted study of an important, lifelong personal and interpersonal issue, written crisply, enjoyably, and informatively. A bestselling ... Read full review

Imperfect control: our lifelong struggles with power and surrender

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Viorst (Murdering Mr. Monti, LJ 12/93) suggests that we tend to exhibit "imperfect control" in our day-to-day existence. Taking an eclectic approach to her topic, she recognizes nature, nurture, and ... Read full review


How Free to Be?
The Taste of Control
Taking Possession of Ourselves
The Power of Sex
Who Controls the Couple?
Permanent Parenthood
Bossing and Being Bossed
Victims and Survivors
Varieties of Surrender
In Control of Our Death
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Judith Viorst is the author of eight collections of poetry and five books of prose, including the bestseller Necessary Losses and her comic novel, Murdering Mr. Monti. She has also written twelve children's books, among them the classic Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day. A graduate of The Washington Psychoanalytic Institute, she is the recipient of various awards for her journalism and psychological writings. She lives in Washington, D.C., with her husband, political writer Milton Viorst. They have three sons.

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