It's Not Me, It's You: The Ultimate Breakup Book

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Da Capo Press, Jan 16, 2006 - Family & Relationships - 232 pages
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Sick and tired of married people getting all the attention and the gifts while the brokenhearted are left with nothing but that hideous bridesmaid dress or, worse, that hideous bridesmaid? This indispensable guide to the modern breakup is for you! Engagements and weddings have their own elaborate etiquette, even lavish gift-giving rituals, but married people already have the thing they need more than that fondue set and trip to Aruba: They have each other. And what do people going through the breakup have at the moment when they're most lacking attention, not to mention gifts and trips? Nada. Enter the anti-Cupids, Anna Jane Grossman and Flint Wainess, here to lend the breakup its ceremonial due, here to break down the breakup. Whether you're thinking about dumping someone, suspect you're about to be dumped yourself, or have recently been shown the proverbial door, Grossman and Wainess offer clear-eyed, commonsense advice to get you through this confusing period. Do you have a plan of attack (or defense) in mind? If you've just been sent packing, do you know the best way to get your stuff back? Do you understand the full range of options at your disposal for exorcising your ex from memory? Do you have the right vocabulary to make a clean breakup, or to explain your lust for revenge to your friends? Yes, It's Not Me, It's You tells you everything you need to know about the breakup: how to do it . . . where to do it . . . when to do it . . . whether to do it . . . whether you can have a friend do it for you. And perhaps most important: what to do after it's over (hint-it's never really over). Laugh-out-loud funny, It's Not Me, It's You reminds us all that just because your relationship was an unmitigated disaster, it doesn't mean your breakup can't be a smashing success.

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If going through therapy and reading relationship books doesnƒ¯‚¿‚½t work, itƒ¯‚¿‚½s time for this lively guide developed by journalist Grossman and screenwriter Wainess. Striking a witty ... Read full review

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While it was a pretty good book, I'm not sure if the book really had realistic advice. A lot of it played toward the emotional side of things instead of the realistic side of things. I have read a few other relationship books, as well as sites such as (which was AWESOME) and while I'd still recommend this book, not sure if I'd put at the top of the list. Good luck! 

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About the author (2006)

Anna Jane Grossman is a journalist who has written wedding and engagement announcements for the New York Post , New York Observer , and New York Times . She lives in New York City. Flint Wainess is a television and screenwriter living in Los Angeles. Together Grossman and Wainess founded the website

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