It's So Hard to Love You: Staying Sane When Your Loved One Is Manipulative, Needy, Dishonest, or Addicted

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New Harbinger Publications, Jul 1, 2007 - Self-Help - 200 pages
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Smart Strategies for Dealing with People Who Are Really Hard to Love

Most of us have someone in our life that we care about, but who is really hard to love: a spouse or sibling with an addiction or anger problem, a parent whose actions frighten or frustrate you, an adult child whom you feel makes the wrong choices over and over, or a friend or other relative who can't get it together. Just because someone you love has a problem, though, doesn't mean you stop loving him or her. You don't want to let go of this person, but you do want to stop getting hurt.

It's So Hard to Love You—written by a brother-and-sister team—offers tools that will help you deal with the anguish of loving a difficult person while maintaining a sane relationship with him or her. Using the strategies in this book, you'll start to clearly recognize the negative effects your loved one's behavior is having on your life. You'll learn to accept that this person's actions may not ever change—but that your actions can. You'll find ways to shift your focus from changing the difficult person to changing your reactions to him or her. As you learn to deal with your difficult loved one on your own terms, you'll also learn techniques for managing the possible negative reactions that can arise from your changing relationship.


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It's So Hard to Love You: Staying Sane When Your Loved One Is Manipulative, Needy, Dishonest, or Addicted

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These books are designed for those attracted to or involved with people with serious problems. InCrazy Love , clinical psychologists Johnson and Murray delve into personality disorders and the effect ... Read full review

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My husband has an addictve personality. I found him cheating on me with women he meets on the internet. He is also addicted to gambling. This book gave me peace from the emotional rollar coaster I was on. Read full review


chapter 2
Understanding Your Troublesome Loved One
Let Go with Love
Communicating with Your Troublesome Loved One
The Choices Are Yours
Family and Friends
Boundaries Negotiations and Contracts
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About the author (2007)

Bill Klatte, MSW, LCSW, has been a psychotherapist and social worker for more than thirty-two years. He is currently a psychotherapist with Medical Associates Health Centers near Milwaukee, WI, and has counseled thousands of people individually, in families, and in groups. He gives presentations, workshops, and seminars to professionals as well as laypeople on such topics as parenting, anger management, and self-growth.

Kate Thompson is a writer, educator, life-skills coach, and editor. She has established and operated four social service programs on Manitoulin Island, Ontario, Canada. She is currently teaching courses in life skills and job preparation and is editing a Native studies curriculum. She has facilitated numerous courses and workshops on sexual assault, family violence, abuse, and personal growth.

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