Leading with Feeling: Nine Strategies of Emotionally Intelligent Leadership

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Oxford University Press, 2020 - Business & Economics - 224 pages
"Tom was a young engineer employed at one of the country's largest steel companies. He had been an outstanding individual performer, and now he was a new manager, leading a team responsible for producing steel for a major automobile company. After just one week on the job, Tom and his team met with over 20 engineers from that other company. It was a rude awakening. I sat in a room with maybe 20 or 25 of their engineers for the annual quality evaluation of suppliers. And I learned for the first time that we were in the bottom of the bottom quartile as a supplier. We had lousy quality, we had lousy invoicing, we had lousy on-time delivery. And this was my first general manager role! I had grown up as an engineer. And how did Tom respond to this unexpected shock? I had a holy shit moment! I had been in the job literally a week. So part of it was, 'Oh my God, what the hell am I going to do?' Also I thought about how my guys had been in the business for a while, and I thought, 'What the hell have you been doing?' And I was thinking, 'I'm going to clean house!' But then... I've learned that you just can't react viscerally every time something comes up because it just scares people away. So Tom listened attentively as the engineers from the auto company presented their litany of complaints. When they finally finished, he stood up and said, "I wouldn't blame you if you fired us as a supplier. But if you give us a chance to fix these problems, I guarantee you that that we will not have this kind of meeting next year." When Tom met with his team the next morning to discuss the situation, he started by just listening to them. They went on for some time complaining about how the company and their previous boss had made it impossible for them to provide good products and service. Rather than disagree with them or join in pointing fingers at others, Tom listened. "I didn't think about it at the time, but that first couple of hours was very cathartic for them. My focus was not on beating anyone up but rather, what can we do to fix this?" The team responded positively to Tom's approach. The next year when they met, the auto company told Tom that they "never saw any business turn around that quickly in one year." As a result, they began giving Tom's company more business, and Tom went on to a distinguished career, eventually becoming one of his company's top executives"--

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Leading with Feeling: Nine Strategies of Emotionally Intelligent Leadership

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Cherniss (Beyond Burnout), professor of applied psychology at Rutgers, and Roche, a corporate management consultant, argue that emotional intelligence is important in the workplace in this shrewd yet ... Read full review


1 Focus on Feeling
2 Let People Know How You Feel
3 What Is Your Impact on Others?
4 What Is It Like for Others?
5 What Are Those Feelings Telling Us?
6 Change Perspective
7 Manage Those Boundaries
8 Enlist the Help of Others
11 Creating a Social Context That Supports Emotional Intelligence
12 Taking Charge
Appendix A Leaders Who Participated in the Research
Appendix B Research Method
Appendix C Links Between Emotional Intelligence Strategies Abilities and Competencies

9 Become an Emotional Coach
Using Several Strategies Together

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Cary Cherniss is Director and Co-Chair of the Consortium for Research on Emotional Intelligence in Organizations and Professor of Applied Psychology Emeritus at Rutgers University. He has published over 70 scholarly articles and book chapters as well as seven books, including The Emotionally Intelligent Workplace (Jossey-Bass, with Daniel Goleman) and Promoting Emotional Intelligence in the Workplace: Guidelines for Practitioners (American Society for Training and Development, with Mitchel Adler). In addition to his research and writing, Dr. Cherniss has consulted with many organizations in both the public and private sectors. He received his Ph.D. in Psychology from Yale University.

Cornelia W. Roche has performed management coaching in a variety of corporate settings and has consulted to schools, non-profit entities, and small business. Drawing upon research and her previous management experience in a Fortune 500 company, her work involves helping professionals better understand and navigate the individual and organizational forces that impact on their work. In addition to consulting, Roche has served as a staff member of the Wharton School's Executive Development Program. Affiliated with the Emotional Intelligence Consortium since its inception, she has a doctorate from Rutgers University in Organizational Psychology. She currently resides in Northern New Jersey with her husband and son.

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