Learning to Love: From Conflict to Lasting Harmony

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Sterling Publishing Company, 2007 - Family & Relationships - 254 pages
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What holds a couple together? Why are we afraid of intimacy? How can we keep our hearts open to one another in the midst of hurt and resentment? Based on nearly two decades of highly successful couples workshops, as well as the Rosenthals’ own 35 years as committed partners, this provocative book is a rare combination of timeless wisdom and practical guidance. Written in clear, accessible language, it offers workable strategies for listening to your partner with an open heart; asking for chan≥ giving and receiving; dealing with anger; and releasing one’s own guilt, fear, and defensiveness. Yet it does all this with a spiritual depth that is both rare and compelling: Learning to Love is a spiritual guide to relationships that truly works. Its unique strength lies in showing partners how to use their inevitable conflicts as the means to a deeper intimacy. By directly addressing our human imperfections and messy, complex feelings, it shows how we can create an atmosphere of emotional safety and learn from one another. The fruits of this process, to those willing to cultivate them, are the tools and resources that make the sharing of unconditional love a daily reality.

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The premise of this self-help book on marriage is that all of us struggle to love and trust openly. The Rosenthals, marriage counselors and partners, guide readers through an exploration of this ... Read full review

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The Rosenthals have gifted us with a wisdom and a spiritual philosophy that utterly transends the traditional world of phychotherapy and support groups. If you need to heal yourself and your relationship, this is your first step. I was in dire need of "fixing" my current relationship and the way I relate to all humans when I happened upon this wonderful guide to opening the heart. It was my first visit to the 'self help' section at B&N in over a decade, and hopefully my last!
If you give Don and Martha an opportunity to teach you the fundamentals of how to see the fear as well as the love that we all live with, and how to choose one over the other, you will thank yourself and maybe write them a letter and thank them personally.


Foreword by Richard Borofsky Ed D
Working Together
Openhearted Listening
Asking Your Partner for Change
Giving and Receiving
CHAPTERS Avoiding Intimacy
CHAPTER? The Role of Pain
Working on Yourself
Energy Leaks and Discipline
Defenses and Guilt

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