Life After Losses: A Memoir of Love, Loss and Life

James Laveck

James LaVeck, Jan 26, 2021 - Biography & Autobiography - 172 pages

Real loss occurs when you love someone more than you love yourself. And with losing a significant other, you lose a part of yourself. After the fact, you feel existentially vacuous, marked by emotional and mental numbness. And, after that, the weight of your suffering begins to get apparent and intolerable. Can you ever rationalize grief through this overbearing sense of losing a significant other? You can't. However, you can learn to deal with it, over time.How does someone pick up the pieces after losing their love and go on to find love again? And what happens when their second love also dies?James LaVeck shares his deeply personal experience in losing his soulmate and husband, Bob, after seven years together. After several years and with the great struggle of getting back to himself, he fell in love again with his second husband, coincidentally also named Bob, and lost him too. This time, with two young children. In this poised narrative, Jim shares the human experience, and practical advice, of coming to terms with reality and learning to rediscover oneself through the unimaginable suffering, not once, but twice. He shares his honest journey through grief toward recovery, and how he made the conscious decision to model grieving behavior to his children. He hopes that, by sharing his experiences, others in similar situations can resonate with and find inspiration in the messages of hope, courage, and faith.

About the author

James LaVeck has spent the greater part of his life consulting for financial institutions and providing project management services. He has helped produce two movies and a classical-crossover album. He is also an author and wrote his memoir, Life After Losses. Jim fell in love with his first husband, Bob, and spent seven years with him before losing him. After a number of years, and with much struggle, he got back to himself and began to date again. He married his second husband and lost him, as well. He began to write his memoir as a cathartic exercise, but it began to metamorphose into a profound narrative that addressed the human experience in learning to deal with the loss of a significant other. With his deep and personal story, he has penned what it's like to feel intense passion towards someone, building a life together, raising children, and dealing with an overbearing sense of grief. He is a native Californian who currently resides in Massachusetts with his two teenage children and two dogs. He enjoys music, musical theatre, and movies. He enjoys going to concerts and is at present learning to play the piano. After several years of volunteering in the community, he has also begun to take acting classes and vocal lessons with the hope of participating in community theatre projects.

Bibliographic information

• Title: Life After Losses: A Memoir of Love, Loss and Life
• Author: James Laveck
• Publisher: James LaVeck, 2021
• ISBN: 173577071X, 9781735770710
• Length: 172 pages
• Subjects: Biography & Autobiography / LGBTQ; Family & Relationships / Death, Grief, Bereavement; Self-Help / Death, Grief, Bereavement