Love Works Like This: Moving from One Kind of Life to Another

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Random House, 2002 - Biography & Autobiography - 186 pages
"Is even the most clenched heart capable of it?" Lauren Slater asks about love, in this original, eloquent, and illuminating book about how we discover what love truly is. Slater, career-oriented and willfully autonomous, charts her own personal journey and decision-making process, starting with a list of the pros and cons, about having a child. The cons are many, the pros only one: "learning a new kind of love." But what will that love look like? How does one reconcile the needs of the self with the demands of others? How do couples go from the dyad that is a marriage to the triad that is a family? And how can Slater adjust to losing precious control of her own carefully developed life? Slater's complex biological and psychological history also lies at the core of this unique and yet strikingly universal story. One of the first people ever to take Prozac, she chronicles the impossibly conflicting advice regarding pregnancy and antidepressants, and explains the rationale behind her eventual decision to stop taking the medication during her first trimester. This is Slater's first encounter with self-sacrifice, and for her a crossroad at which modern medicine and basic human love meet. Love Works Like This is a richly written book by "an enormously poetic and ebullient writer" (Elle magazine), an author who writes with "beauty and bravery" (Los Angeles Times Book Review) about falling in love, about growing into the ability to put someone else's life ahead of your own, and about the rich rewards we can draw from the courage to exchange one kind of happy life for another.

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LOVE WORKS LIKE THIS: Opening One's Life to a Child

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From practicing psychologist and noted memoirist Slater (Prozac Diary, 1998, etc.), an unflinchingly honest and evocative account of her decision to have a baby—and its consequences.Happily married ... Read full review

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About the author (2002)

A 1999 National Magazine Award nominee, Lauren Slater has a master’s degree in psychology from Harvard University and a doctorate from Boston University. Her work was chosen for the Best American Essays/Most Notable Essays volumes of 1994, 1996, 1997, 1998, and 1999. Her previous book, Lying, was chosen by Entertainment Weekly as one of the top ten nonfiction books of 2000. Slater lives with her family in Massachusetts.

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