Making Marriage Work: New Rules for an Old Institution

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Agate Publishing, 2012 - Family & Relationships - 149 pages
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As the judge starring on the hit nationally syndicated television showDivorce Court, Lynn Toler witnesses, en masse, the thematic mistakes made in American marriages. She herself has also been wed for 22 years and has seen both the highs and lows of matrimony in her own marriage as well as the marriages of those close to her. While the national divorce rate hovers around the 50% threshold, there is a lot of chatter that marriage as we know it is an outdated institution--that we are too selfish, too unwilling to make sacrifices, and too misguided by elevated expectations ofhappiness to make marriage work.

While these points may hold some validity, a lot of this chatter is nothing new. So what's causing so many divorces and, perhaps even more importantly, what are we to do about it if we want marriage to survive? Drawing from both her professional career and personal life, Toler sees that the biggest impediment to marriage these days is that couples decide to take the plunge based almost entirely on the most irrational criteria: falling in love.

Making Marriage Work doesn't suggest that love has nothing to do with marriage at all; rather, Toler says that love by itself is simply not enough to make marriages survive. This book is a logical and simple guide to reintroducing some of the practicality of marriage that has leaked out of it over the years.

Marriage, Toler says, is a job, and it needs to be treated like one. However, the makeup and consistency of this job has changed so much over the past few decades that the old rules no longer apply.Making Marriage Work is an updated manual to help get the job of marriage done right in this day and age. It suggests specific procedures that should be put in place to bridge the gap between head over heels and happily ever after. It explains how to phrase things in order to span the great hormonal divide men and women often fall into when trying to talk to one another. It also discusses the very new and real challenges to marriage created in a culture often overwhelmed by the emphasis on (and ability to attain) instant gratification.

Replete with simple, no-nonsense rules,Divorce Court anecdotes, and stories about Judge Toler's own union,Making Marriage Work contains invaluable information couples can use today to secure their marital tomorrow.
 

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My life became devastated when my husband sent me packing, after 8 years that we have been together. I was lost and helpless after trying so many ways to make my husband take me back. One day at work, i was absent minded not knowing that my boss was calling me, so he sat and asked me what its was all about i told him and he smiled and said that it was not a problem. I never understand what he meant by it wasn't a problem getting my husband back, he said he used a spell to get his wife back when she left him for another man and now they are together till date and at first i was shocked hearing such thing from my boss. He gave me an email address of the great spell caster who helped him get his wife back, i never believed this would work but i had no choice that to get in contact with the spell caster which i did, and he requested for my information and that of my husband to enable him cast the spell and i sent him the details, but after two days, my mom called me that my husband came pleading that he wants me back, i never believed it because it was just like a dream and i had to rush down to my mothers place and to my greatest surprise, my husband was kneeling before me pleading for forgiveness that he wants me and the kid back home, then i gave Happy a call regarding sudden change of my husband and he made it clear to me that my husband will love me till the end of the world, that he will never leave my sight. Now me and my husband is back together again and has started doing pleasant things he hasn't done before, he makes me happy and do what he is suppose to do as a man without nagging. Please if you need help of any kind, kindly contact Happy for help and you can reach him via email: happylovespell2@gmail.com 

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Am Molly Paul, from United states .i never believed in love spells or magic until i met this spell caster once when i went to Africa in June last year on a business summit i meet a man called Dr NICE, is powerful he could help you cast a spells to bring back my love Is gone, misbehaving lover, looking for some one to love you, bring back lost money and magic money spell or spell for a good job i'm now happy & a living testimony cos the man i had wanted to marry left me 4weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our relationship has been on for 3 year i really loved him, but his mother was against me and he had no good paying job so when i met this spell caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him at first i was undecided,skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try and in 6 days when i returned to taxes my boyfriend (is now my husband ) he called me by himself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mom and family and he got a new good paying job, and we got married, all thanks to Dr Nice, for making me the happiest woman on earth, any one having such problems as i was should please contact Dr Nice on his email (drniceharbelhealinghome@gmail.com) for solution because am a living testimony of his powers again (drniceharbelhealinghome@gmail.com) Thanks. 

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Contents

It Was Never There
1
I Have Already Made That Mistake
11
What to Do Before You Say I Do
21
Red Flags and Warning Signs
41
Now What?
57
Communication 101
69
Ladies and Gentlemen
79
Money Matters
91
The Other People InLaws Steps and Those Who Shall Remain Nameless
103
Off the Road
115
Falling
123
What to Do Before You Say I Dont
133
The Fourth Quarter
145
About the Author
149
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Lynn Toler, a veteran municipal court judge, is the star of the syndicated TV show Divorce Court. Her previous book, My Mother's Rules was published by Agate Bolden in 2007.

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