Mapping the terrain of the heart: the six capacities that guide the journey of love
If you have read other books about love that have fallen short, read this book. Mapping the Terrain of the Heart is an eloquent guide through love's diverse landscapes that provides a whole new way to think about love relationships. Both descriptive and prescriptive, it is a book for anyone looking to experience a committed relationship full of passion and tenderness.
In the labyrinth of love, every one of us has our own inner map. Psychologists Goldbart and Wallin lead us along the metaphorical superhighways on the map of love by charting six easily grasped skills - the six capacities of love - that are each necessary to a long-term, stable love relationship: the capacities for erotic involvement, for merging, for idealization, for integration, for "refinding," and for self-transcendence. The authors demonstrate in a very practical, hands-on way how individuals and couples can use these capacities to work on breaking down their usual defenses and grow toward a deeper understanding and connection.
In defending ourselves against disappointment in love, we frequently - and often unknowingly - throw up obstacles, create roadblocks, and take detours around these six capacities. We think such detours will take us where we want to go in a relationship, but too often they do not. Goldbart and Wallin's sophisticated but accessible approach - using case studies and practical pointers throughout - is based on solid psychoanalytic theory while creating a completely new model for love relationships that also makes intuitive sense.
Mapping the Terrain of the Heart offers a comprehensive psychology of love that maps out the paths to a successful relationship and shows how both individuals and couples can progress toward that ever-elusive goal of lasting and passionate love.
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Psychologists Goldbart and Wallin use psychoanalytic, systems, and object relations theory to "map" the journey taken by people in intimate relationships. Their map focuses on six necessary capacities ... Read full review
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