Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them: When Loving Hurts and You Don't Know Why

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Bantam Books, Jan 1, 2002 - Family & Relationships - 291 pages
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Does the man you love assume the right to control how you live and behave?

Have you given up important activities or people to keep him happy?

Is he extremely jealous and possessive?

Does he switch from charm to anger without warning?

Does he belittle your opinions, your feelings, or your accomplishments?

Does he withdraw love, money, approval, or sex to punish you?

Does he blame you for everything that goes wrong in the relationship?

Do you find yourself "walking on eggshells" and apologizing all the time?

If the questions here reveal a familiar pattern, you may be in love with a misogynist -- a man who loves you, yet causes you tremendous pain because he acts as if he hates you.

In this superb self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward draws on case histories and the voices of men ad women trapped in these relationships to help you understand you man's destructive pattern, the part you play in it, how to break the pattern, heal the hurt, regain your self-respect, and either rebuild your relationship or find the courage to love a truly loving man.

"Very important and much needed...This how-to book could be a lifesaver." -- Abigail Van Buren, "Dear Abby"

"A "must read" for any woman who has ever been in a destructive relationship." -- Sonya Friedman, Ph.D., author of "Smart Cookies Don't Crumble"

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Forward is a therapist, author, and talk-show host whose specialty is abusive relationships. This book grew out of her realization that her own marriage as well as those of many of her clients ... Read full review

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I read this in a DV shelter, as I read it I was able to understand and see that my reality,my relationship was abusive.And it helped me to see that it wasn't me and understand that his up bringing produced a abusive man. Love this book!!!!!!

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About the author (2002)

Susan Forward, Ph.D., is an internationally renowned therapist, lecturer, and author of the number one New York Times bestsellers Toxic Parents and Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them, as well as Betrayal of Innocence: Incest and Its Devastation, Money Demons, Emotional Blackmail, When Your Lover Is a Liar, and Toxic In-Laws.

In addition to her private practice, for five years she hosted a daily ABC talk-radio program. She has also served widely as a group therapist, instructor, and consultant in many southern California medical and psychiatric facilities, and she formed the first private sexual abuse treatment center in California. She lives in Los Angeles and has two grown children.

Dr. Forward maintains offices in Sherman Oaks, California. For further information, call (818) 986-1161.


Joan Torres is an award-winning freelance writer with extensive movie and television credits.

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