Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex

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Harper Collins, Jan 6, 2004 - Family & Relationships - 368 pages
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Rediscover the most famous relationship book ever published

Once upon a time Martians and Venusians met, fell in love, and had happy relationships together because they respected and accepted their differences. Then they came to Earth and amnesia set in: they forgot they were from different planets.

Based on years of successful counseling of couples and individuals, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus has helped millions of couples transform their relationships. Now viewed as a modern classic, this phenomenal book has helped men and women realize how different they can be in their communication styles, their emotional needs, and their modes of behavior—and offers the secrets of communicating without conflicts, allowing couples to give intimacy every chance to grow.

 

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While I feel like there were a lot of great tips and advice in the book, there were parts that felt very outdated. I definitely believe there are nuggets of common sense that come out of the book ... Read full review

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I'm sure if every couple read this book they won't have pretty much any problems... this is a great guide for both genders to help understanding the other. Would recommend it to anyone. 5/5 Read full review

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Contents

Men Are from Mars Women Are from Venus
1
Mr FixIt and the HomeImprovement Committee
8
Men Go to Their Caves and Women Talk
25
How to Motivate the Opposite Sex
40
Speaking Different Languages
60
Men Are Like Rubber Bands
98
Women Are Like Waves
120
Discovering Our Different Emotional Needs
143
How to Avoid Arguments
165
Scoring Points with the Opposite Sex
199
How to Communicate Difficult Feelings
233
How to Ask for Support and Get It
276
Keeping the Magic of Love Alive
307
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Page 5 - Men mistakenly expect women to think, communicate, and react the way men do; women mistakenly expect men to feel, communicate, and respond the way women do. We have forgotten that men and women are supposed to be different. As a result our relationships are filled with unnecessary friction and conflict. Clearly recognizing and respecting these differences dramatically reduces confusion when dealing with the opposite sex. When you remember that men are from Mars and women are from Venus, everything...
Page 5 - Without the awareness that we are supposed to be different, men and women are at odds with each other. We usually become angry or frustrated with the opposite sex because we have forgotten this important truth. We expect the opposite sex to be more like ourselves. We desire them to "want what we want" and "feel the way we feel." We mistakenly assume that if our partners love us they will react and behave in certain ways — the ways we react and behave when we love someone. This attitude sets us...
Page 37 - When women want to talk about problems, men usually resist. A man assumes she is talking with him about her problems because she is holding him responsible. The more problems, the more he feels blamed.
Page 12 - IVIartians value power, competency, efficiency, and achievement. They are always doing things to prove themselves and develop their power and skills. Their sense of self is defined through their ability to achieve results. They experience fulfillment primarily through success and accomplishment. They are more interested in "objects" and "things" rather than people and feelings.
Page xxxiii - Not only do men and women communicate differently but they think, feel, perceive, react, respond, love, need, and appreciate differently. They almost seem to be from different planets, speaking different languages and needing different nourishment.
Page 28 - I would stop anything I was doing if he greeted me that way." Only later in our marriage did I realize what was actually going on. Men and women cope differently with stress. According to John Gray, author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, men, when faced with stress, "become increasingly focused and withdrawn while women become increasingly overwhelmed and emotionally involved. At these times a man's needs for feeling good are different from a woman's. He feels better by solving problems...
Page 5 - ... For years they lived together in love and harmony. Then they decided to fly to Earth. In the beginning everything was wonderful and beautiful. But the effects of Earth's atmosphere took hold, and one morning everyone woke up with a peculiar kind of amnesia— selective amnesia!
Page 145 - But when she is crashing, her loving vision becomes cloudy, and she reacts more to what is missing in her life. Just as a glass of water can be viewed as half full or half empty, when a woman is on her way up she sees the fullness of her life. On the way down she sees the emptiness. Whatever emptiness she overlooks on the way up comes more into focus when she is on her way down into her well. Without learning about how women are like waves men cannot understand or support their wives. They are confused...
Page 43 - Vciuisians on their respective planets suddenly became depressed . . . When the Martians became depressed, everyone on the planet left the cities and went to their caves for a long time. They were stuck and couldn't come out, until one day when a Martian happened to glimpse the beautiful Venusians through his telescope. As he quickly shared his telescope, the sight of these beautiful beings inspired the Martians, and their depression miraculously lifted. Suddenly liter fell needed.

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John Gray, Ph.D., is one of the world’s leading relationship experts, and an authority on improving communication styles for couples, companies, and communities. His many books have sold more than fifty million copies in fifty different languages worldwide. John lives with his wife and children in northern California.

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