Mom, I Hate You!: Children's Provocative Communication: What It Means and What to Do about It

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Three Rivers Press, 2003 - Family & Relationships - 244 pages
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"You Can't Make Me!" "You're Stupid!" "I Wish You Were Dead."
From embarrassing public displays of defiance and snide remarks at the dinner table to shocking outbursts of hate and anger, children often communicate in ways that push the notion of freedom of expression way beyond acceptable boundaries. In Mom, I Hate You!, respected psychotherapist Don Fleming demonstrates that such behavior is a natural, necessary part of growing up and offers parents effective strategies for responding to provocative statements and establishing meaningful, mutually satisfying parent-child communications.
Dr. Fleming takes parents through these tactics step by step, including:
- Decoding the meaning behind children's words
- Responding to the meaning, not the words
- Strategies for change--incentives and consequences
- Provocative communication and sibling rivalry
- Line-by-line examples
Dr. Fleming explains how to decode the emotional message behind a child's seemingly rude, mean-spirited, or disrespectful words and helps parents evaluate their own habitual, often counterproductive reactions to specific situations and behavior patterns. Using realistic examples, he shows that parents can reduce antagonizing and aggressive confrontations while teaching their kids to express their emotions freely and honestly.

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What Is Provocative Communication?
Provocative Communication and Your Childs Development
Decoding the Meaning Behind Childrens Words

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About the author (2003)

DON FLEMING, Ph.D., is a child psychotherapist and the author of How to Stop the Battle with Your Child and How to Stop the Battle with Your Teenager. He practices in Beverly Hills and lives in Los Angeles, California. MARK RITTS has a varied background as a writer, producer, director, and performer and has worked on numerous programs for children.

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