Mom, They're Teasing Me: Helping Your Child Solve Social Problems

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Ballantine Books, 2002 - Family & Relationships - 247 pages
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From the acclaimed authors of Best Friends, Worst Enemies, here is the perfect companion volume: a practical, how-to guide for parents to help their children navigate the sometimes harsh terrain of social life at school, on the playground, and in the neighborhood.

Almost everyone agrees (and remembers): Childhood can be a traumatic time. Kids frequently face peer rejection, name-calling, bullying, after-school fights, esteem-crushing cliques, and malicious exclusion by the popular kids. And parents often feel powerless to console their children. Now help is here. Mom, They’re Teasing Me is a specific, hands-on guide for concerned parents who want to give their children the tools they need to cope with social cruelty. Through vividly written case studies and a reader-friendly question-and-answer format, this compelling book shows parents what a child may confront with other children, and then offers concrete advice on handling each situation.

Mom, They’re Teasing Me deals in-depth with specific aspects of social cruelty: the four major types of children at risk for social isolation and their unique problems; the ordinary pain of those children not at risk—but who, nevertheless, cause their parents concern; and bad class dynamics in the school and neighborhood. Through thoughtful discussion and insightful suggestions, parents will discover

• The difference between real risk and normal social pain
• The appropriate time to intervene—and when to step back
• Tips on how to mediate between children—without appearing meddlesome
• Essential advice for parents who worry too much
• The importance of teaching and encouraging leadership
• The redemptive power of friendship

Mom, They’re Teasing Me answers key questions on the many manifestations of social cruelty, offers compelling descriptions of prime “teasing” scenarios, and illustrates how to counter them. It is an indispensable book for every involved parent who wants to make their child’s formative years rich and rewarding.

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User Review  - heimtime10 -

Michael Thompson is an absolute expert when it comes to children and social development. Like his other books on the subject this one is a must read for any parent or educator who has questions or concerns about the social development of children. Read full review

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User Review  - kirstenn - LibraryThing

A useful followup to their other book, Best Friends, Worst Enemies. A good explanation of the social interaction between children and how they develop, but still feels a bit short on practical suggestions for what to do when I'm the parent whose child says they're being teased. Read full review


The Everyday Lives
Finding Your Place Finding Yourself
Questions Answers
Friendship Skills for Life
Have Faith in Development
Embracing Imaginary Friends
Popularity and Power
When the Group Causes Trouble
Too Thin
Coming to the Rescue
No One Is Safe Unless Everyone Is Safe
Case Studies
Harassed out of School
Be a Parent Not a Kid
NotSoInnocent Bystanders

When a Boy Falls Head over Heels
Case Studies
Questions Answers
How Can Two Kids from
The Roots of Bullying
Cracking the Code of Silence
To Box or Not to Box
When the Bullies Are Winning
When Other Families
The Power of Love
Saying Goodbye to School

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Michael Thompson, Ph.D., is a psychologist, lecturer, consultant, and former seventh-grade teacher. He conducts workshops on social cruelty, children’s friendships, and boys’ development across the United States. He is the author of Speaking of Boys and coauthor of the New York Times bestseller Raising Cain, as well as Best Friends, Worst Enemies, with Catherine O’Neill Grace and Lawrence J. Cohen. The father of a daughter and a son, he and his wife live in Arlington, Massachusetts. Lawrence J. Cohen, Ph.D., is a psychologist and the author of Playful Parenting. He is also a columnist for The Boston Globe. He lives in Brookline, Massachusetts, with his wife and daughter. Catherine O’

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