Motherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss
In the tradition of "Passages" and "My Mother, My Self," this unique, personal, and ground-breaking "New York Times" best-seller -- the first of its kind -- explores the profound pain of mother loss among women and is available here for the first time in paperback. "When my mother died, I knew no woman my age who had experienced mother loss. I felt utterly and irrevocably alone. In college, where new friends knew only as much about me as I was willing to reveal, I told few people my mother had died. I searched the university library and local bookstoresfor writings about mother loss. In each book I found about mother-daughter relationships, I quickly flipped ahead to the chapter about a mother's death, but discovered they all assumed the reader would be in her forties or fifties when her mother dies. I was eighteen." --excerpt from "Motherless" Daughters."
Not only for motherless daughters, but for all women who want to better understand the mother/daughter relationship, this beautifully written work inspired an Anna Quindlen column; appeared in the "New York Times," Ingram, Barnes & Noble, and San Francisco best-seller lists; and received an extraordinary amount of media attention including a feature on The Today Show. Hope Edelman lost her mother to breast cancer when she was eighteen. Unable to find a book to help her understand and cope with that loss, she decided to write her own. She posted notices asking motherless women to share their experiences with her, and was unprepared for both the number of responses she received, and for their emotional intensity. Eventually meeting with 92 women and surveying 154 by mail, Hope was able tocompare how mother loss affects daughters differently depending on their ages, their relationships to their mothers, their father's attitude, and the support or dependency of siblings. But more important Hope's book explores what these women share -- a void in their lives they cannot seem to fill. Their common experiences and insights will help motherless daughters, and those who care about them, come to better understand how this painful loss shapes lives forever."
"A moving and valuable treatment of a neglected subject, jolting us into awareness of the profound problems mother loss leaves in its wake." -- The New York Times Book Review."
"Many women will find this book painful, but it's reassuring to have the company of others with the complex emotions and lifelong effects of a mother's loss."-Kirkus Reviews."
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LibraryThing ReviewUser Review - dark_phoenix54 - LibraryThing
I started reading this book nearly ten years ago, when the grief counselor recommended it to me after my mother died. I read most of it then, and put it down with only a few pages to go, until an hour ... Read full review
LibraryThing ReviewUser Review - whimsyblue - LibraryThing
I was deeply grieving the loss of my mother as I read this book, published just one year after her death. I found it very helpful in finding a place for my feelings and it helped me to feel less alone ... Read full review