My Father Before Me: How Fathers and Sons Influence Each Other Throughout Their Lives

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W. W. Norton & Company, 2007 - Family & Relationships - 239 pages

For decades, mothers were thought to be the only real influence on a child. Now we recognize that the father's involvement also has a profound impact, but how sons affect their fathers is too-often overlooked. In "My Father Before Me" psychoanalyst Michael J. Diamond firmly establishes fatherhood as an essential event for both the son's and the father's development. With chapters analyzing the father/son relationship throughout the life cycle, and demonstrating the powerful influence between them, Diamond calls for a more inclusive notion of masculinity, thus allowing men to access parts of themselves they previously ignored. He argues that sons are largely responsible for helping their fathers embrace this more flexible notion of manhood, making them better partners and better parents. Diamond has written an important book that enables us to make sense of the question: what does it truly mean to be a man.

 

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Contents

Fatherhood on the horizon
13
A Father is Born
24
Fathers Introducing Toddlers to the World
46
Guiding Boys Toward the World of Men
68
Encouraging Mastery Competence and Pride in Middle Childhood
88
From Hero to Fallen Hero
110
Coaching from the Sidelines
135
Man to Man
155
Reversing Roles in Later Life
176
The Arc of Life
196
Notes
209
Permissions
223
Index
225
Copyright

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About the author (2007)

Michael J. Diamond is a practicing clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst and was recently named Distinguished Psychoanalyst of the Year by the Institute for Psychoanalytic Training and Research. He lives in Los Angeles.

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