My Mother's Rules: A Practical Guide to Becoming an Emotional Genius

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Agate Publishing, Mar 1, 2009 - Self-Help - 300 pages
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In this unique, profoundly inspirational memoir, Divorce Court star Judge Lynn Toler shares her mother’s wisdom for learning to conquer anger and become immune to insult. Toler credits her mother’s “rules” for life – a life that saw her grow up the daughter of a poor teen mother and endure a husband who suffered mental illness and alcoholism – with providing the grounding for her own success and happiness. Toler shows how the mindset of “a black woman who knew how to make things work” taught her the power of knowing how to manage one’s emotional business—lessons that this book offers in wrenching stories written in spare and graceful prose. My Mother’s Rules is an unforgettable book that will captivate readers with its illustrations of how to rise above the most difficult circumstances and find peace and success in life.

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Easy-reading prose and a no-nonsense approach will carry readers through this collection of anecdotes and rules for healthier living from first time author and Divorce Court star/judge Toler. As the ... Read full review

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The Proper Emotion
Professional Experience Welcome Weyant Avenue
Awards and Recognition
Mothers Best Save
The Corrected Course
Karma is a Bitch
Other Peoples Errors
Somewhere East of Reason
The HowDareYou Diaries
Whats Going on Next Door
My Mothers Rules A Handy Digest

What a Little Crazy Will Do For You

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About the author (2009)

Lynn Toler graduated from Harvard University and got her law degree from the University of Pennsylvania. After a decade practicing law in Cleveland, she was elected judge of the Cleveland Heights Municipal Court in 1993. During her tenure, she was actively engaged in the community, creating innovative programs to help at-risk youth and coordinating resources and outreach to victims of domestic violence.

She became the host of Divorce Court, the longest-running television court program, in 2006. Her no-nonsense, straightforward advice and rulings have endeared her to legions of Divorce Court's fans. She is the author of Making Marriage Work (2012) and My Mother's Rules (2007), published by Agate Bolden. Judge Toler has two sons and four stepsons, and frequently posts about her large, busy family on her Facebook page.

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