Now You're Speaking My Language: Honest Communication and Deeper Intimacy for a Stronger Marriage

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B&H Publishing Group, 2007 - Family & Relationships - 256 pages
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Now You're Speaking My Language is the newest paperback release from The New York Times best-selling author of The Five Love Languages. In this conversion of the Gold Medallion Award-winning Covenant Marriage, Chapman encourages spouses to exhibit loyalty, forgiveness, empathy, and commitment to resolving conflict in order to foster spiritual growth. Readers will learn lasting principles for marital growth, how a couple's relationship with God enhances a marriage, how "oneness" involves not only sex, but also intellectual, spiritual, emotional, and social oneness, and how communication is the key to it all. Helping readers to navigate their marriage with chapters on "Unhealthy Patterns of Communication," "Five Levels of Communication," as well as several chapters on the different types of intimacy, Chapman considers this title his best work.
 

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Gary Chapman's book Now You're Speaking My Language focuses on communication, which he claims is the most fundamental for building marital intimacy. Filled with practical principles and loads of ... Read full review

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Author does a nice job of truthfully letting you know what a marriage needs to survive honest open and effective communication. Brings attention to the words you choose to say what you want to say ... Read full review

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Contents

INTRODUCTION
1
COMMUNICATION THE ROAD TO INTIMACY
7
UNHEALTHY PATTERNS OF COMMUNICATION
15
FIVE LEVELS OF COMMUNICATION
25
CONTRACT MARRIAGES
37
COVENANT MARRIAGES
43
COVENANT MARRIAGES DREAM OR REALITY?
59
WHATS SO IMPORTANT ABOUT INTIMACY?
69
IDENTIFYING OUR DIFFERENCES
131
MAKING DIFFERENCES AN ASSET
143
WHY DO GET SO DEFENSIVE?
153
OVERCOMING THE BARRIERS OF DEFENSIVENESS
165
INTIMACY NAKED AND UNASHAMED
177
THEN CAME CLOTHES
185
EMOTIONAL INTIMACY
193
INTELLECTUAL INTIMACY
203

GETTING TO KNOW YOURSELF EXPERIENCES AND WHAT THEY MEAN
75
GETTING TO KNOW YOURSELF EMOTIONS DESIRES AND CHOICES
83
LEARNING THE ART OF SELFREVELATION
97
GETTING READY TO GROW PRIORITIES AND GOALS
109
MAKING TIME FOR THE IMPORTANT
119
SEXUAL INTIMACY
213
SPIRITUAL INTIMACY
231
WHY DIDNT SOMEONE TELL ME?
251
NOTES
256
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About the author (2007)

Relationship counselor, pastor, and author Gary Chapman graduated from Moody Bible Institute, received a B.A. and M.A. in Anthropology from Wheaton College and Wake Forest University respectively, completed graduate work in education at Duke University and the University of North Carolina, and earned his Ph.D. in Adult Education and Master's of Religious Education from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary. Chapman has discussed his five love language theory in numerous books and video programs, and he has also written many works of guidance on the topics of marriage, parenting, and in-law relationships. The director of Marriage and Family Life Consultants, Inc., Chapman has also been the senior associate pastor at Winston-Salem, North Carolina's Calvary Baptist Church since 1971. He has spoken internationally and domestically on relationships and received the Platinum Book Award from the Evangelical Publishers Association for The Five Love Languages. He also made The New York Times Best Seller List with The Five Love Languages of Children in 2015.

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