Okay Fine Whatever: The Year I Went from Being Afraid of Everything to Only Being Afraid of Most Things

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Little, Brown, Jul 31, 2018 - Biography & Autobiography - 320 pages
The "hilarious and poignant" story of one chronically anxious woman's quest to become braver by seeking out the kinds of experiences she's spent her life avoiding (Cheryl Strayed).

For most of her life (and even during her years as the host of a popular radio show), Courtenay Hameister lived in a state of near-constant dread and anxiety. She fretted about everything. Her age. Her size. Her romantic prospects. How likely it was that she would get hit by a bus on the way home.

Until a couple years ago, when, in her mid-forties, she decided to fight back against her debilitating anxieties by spending a year doing little things that scared her -- things that the average person might consider doing for a half second before deciding: "nope."

Things like: attending a fellatio class. She did that. She also spent an afternoon in a sensory deprivation tank, got (legally) high in the middle of a workday, had a session with a professional cuddler, braved twenty-eight first dates, and (perhaps scariest of all) actually met someone who might possibly appreciate her for who she is.

Refreshing, relatable, and pee-your-pants funny, Okay Fine Whatever is Courtenay's hold-nothing-back account of her adventures on the front lines of Mere Human Woman vs. Fear, reminding us that even the tiniest amount of bravery is still bravery, and that no matter who you are, it's possible to fight complacency and become bold, or at least bold-ish, a little at a time.

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User Review  - BillieBook - LibraryThing

Again, I listened to another author-narrated memoir and again I start thinking the author and I should be BFFs—or at least drinking buddies. Hameister is smart and funny and not shy talking about ... Read full review

Okay Fine Whatever: The Year I Went from Being Afraid of Everything to Only Being Afraid of Most Things

User Review  - Publishers Weekly

Hameister, former host and head writer of the Portland radio show Live Wire!, undertakes an amusing, if perhaps overly insular, rumination on various experiences she has subjected herself to in order ... Read full review


The SensoryDeprivation Tank
Casa Diablo
A Little Bit of Background
Adventures in Dating I
A Brazilian in Portland
Adventures in Dating II
Getting Legally High
BuildYourOwnBurrito Night at the Sex Club
An Hour with a Professional Cuddler
Water Aerobics
Adventures in Dating III
Fellatio Class
Adventures in Intimacy
One Last Leap

Dating the Polyamorous I
The Epilogue Thats Really Just Another Chapter

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About the author (2018)

Courtenay Hameister is a professional nervous person. During her twelve years as host and head writer for Live Wire, a nationally-syndicated public radio show, she interviewed over 500 intimidating people and wrote 200 personal essays in bursts of anxiety-fueled inspiration at midnight the night before each show. Her work has also been featured in McSweeney's, APM's Marketplace, More Magazine, and some scathing emails to the customer service department at Macy's.

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