Recovery From Sexual Addiction: A Man’s Guide

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AuthorHouse, May 14, 2012 - Health & Fitness - 152 pages
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Recovery from Sexual Addiction: A Man’s Guide and a companion workbook, help men learn how to achieve a high level commitment to change their behavior and thinking. Men are introduced to insights on how to move out of compulsive behavior, depressed mood, and isolation into a more fulfilling life. Readers will learn about the Addicts Life Scale, a simple yet insightful tool that illustrates how one’s mood is directly related to destructive acting-out behaviors. Once a man becomes aware of his mood levels, he can begin to take proactive steps to reach and sustain a mood level where he feels confident and motivated to remain free of destructive acting-out behaviors. Book chapters are structured to help men examine their most personal issues, including: • the nature and origin of sexual addiction, • the roles of anger, anxiety, isolation, and depression in sexual addiction, • how co-dependency fosters sexual addiction, • how to cultivate self-awareness and improved attitude, and • creating a healthy life style absent sexually acting out. Ultimately, readers will discover the satisfaction that comes from improved relationships with their spouses, children, other men, and God. Paul Becker’s unique Recovery From Sexual Addiction series includes a core book, client workbook, and a clinician guide. The three texts use an interactive approach to help therapists and clients thoroughly explore the roots of sexual addiction and effective ways to achieve long-term recovery. The series is especially helpful to therapists who prefer to base recovery on principles proven by Dr. Patrick Carnes.
 

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Contents

What is Addiction?
2
Multiple practices
3
Compulsivepowerlessness
4
Practices become unmanageable
5
Tolerance
6
Progression
7
Change in a life focus
8
Compulsive sexual behaviors
10
The answer?
64
You and codependency addressed
65
Childhood abuse
66
Childhood messages
68
Rules in the head
69
Anger alters mood
70
Situational anxiety
71
Chronic anxiety
72

Were you sexually abused as a child or adolescent?
11
Do you regularly purchase sexually explicit magazines?
12
Are you often preoccupied with sexual thoughts?
13
Do you ever feel bad about your sexual behavior?
14
Do you lead a double life?
15
Are any of your sexual activities against the law? For example sex with minors exposure of genitals in public
16
Have you ever tried to limit or stop masturbating?
17
Common elements in these vignettes
27
Common elements in your life
29
Ageinappropriate exposure to sexual behavior or material
32
Arousal
34
Feelings of shame guilt and depression
35
Learned model in childhood that is repeated in adulthood
36
Habit
38
Sexual fantasies
39
Association of systems
40
Loneliness to isolation
41
Sex to medicate pain
42
Definition of pornography
50
Statistics on pornography
51
Internet pornography content
53
Codependency in marriages where the male is sexually addicted
56
Who is to blame?
57
Codependency characteristics flourish in marriage
58
Epilog
59
Codependency characteristics in Jim and Barbaras marriage
60
Children of codependent dysfunctional families have illformed or incomplete personalities
61
Fear shame anger and depressed mood are all companions of codependency
62
The other side of the coin
63
Treatment
73
Chronic depressed mood
74
Next steps
78
Hope from scripture
81
Changing the dance
83
Treatment goals
84
Addicts view of the world
85
Life changes
88
Changing the dancenew steps
89
Commitment
90
Awareness as part of the commitment
91
Recognize that addiction causes more pain than pleasure
93
Address environmental temptation
94
Address the potential for relapse
95
What is a healthy lifestyle?
97
Coming out of isolation by cultivating a strong male friendship
98
Coming out of isolation by improving relationships with a spouse and children
99
Compartmentalization
101
Choose to take steps to live at great to be alive fortypoint benchmark mood level
103
Twelve Step programs
104
Choose interventions to support your commitment
105
Planning ahead
108
Backing off behaviors
109
What does my addiction have to do with God?
113
Committed and genuine relationship with God
114
Surrender
115
References
132
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