Recovery From Sexual Addiction: A Man’s Guide
Recovery from Sexual Addiction: A Man’s Guide and a companion workbook, help men learn how to achieve a high level commitment to change their behavior and thinking. Men are introduced to insights on how to move out of compulsive behavior, depressed mood, and isolation into a more fulfilling life. Readers will learn about the Addicts Life Scale, a simple yet insightful tool that illustrates how one’s mood is directly related to destructive acting-out behaviors. Once a man becomes aware of his mood levels, he can begin to take proactive steps to reach and sustain a mood level where he feels confident and motivated to remain free of destructive acting-out behaviors. Book chapters are structured to help men examine their most personal issues, including: • the nature and origin of sexual addiction, • the roles of anger, anxiety, isolation, and depression in sexual addiction, • how co-dependency fosters sexual addiction, • how to cultivate self-awareness and improved attitude, and • creating a healthy life style absent sexually acting out. Ultimately, readers will discover the satisfaction that comes from improved relationships with their spouses, children, other men, and God. Paul Becker’s unique Recovery From Sexual Addiction series includes a core book, client workbook, and a clinician guide. The three texts use an interactive approach to help therapists and clients thoroughly explore the roots of sexual addiction and effective ways to achieve long-term recovery. The series is especially helpful to therapists who prefer to base recovery on principles proven by Dr. Patrick Carnes.
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What is Addiction?
Practices become unmanageable
Change in a life focus
Compulsive sexual behaviors
You and codependency addressed
Rules in the head
Anger alters mood
Were you sexually abused as a child or adolescent?
Do you regularly purchase sexually explicit magazines?
Are you often preoccupied with sexual thoughts?
Do you ever feel bad about your sexual behavior?
Do you lead a double life?
Are any of your sexual activities against the law? For example sex with minors exposure of genitals in public
Have you ever tried to limit or stop masturbating?
Common elements in these vignettes
Common elements in your life
Ageinappropriate exposure to sexual behavior or material
Feelings of shame guilt and depression
Learned model in childhood that is repeated in adulthood
Association of systems
Loneliness to isolation
Sex to medicate pain
Definition of pornography
Statistics on pornography
Internet pornography content
Codependency in marriages where the male is sexually addicted
Who is to blame?
Codependency characteristics flourish in marriage
Codependency characteristics in Jim and Barbaras marriage
Children of codependent dysfunctional families have illformed or incomplete personalities
Fear shame anger and depressed mood are all companions of codependency
The other side of the coin
Chronic depressed mood
Hope from scripture
Changing the dance
Addicts view of the world
Changing the dancenew steps
Awareness as part of the commitment
Recognize that addiction causes more pain than pleasure
Address environmental temptation
Address the potential for relapse
What is a healthy lifestyle?
Coming out of isolation by cultivating a strong male friendship
Coming out of isolation by improving relationships with a spouse and children
Choose to take steps to live at great to be alive fortypoint benchmark mood level
Twelve Step programs
Choose interventions to support your commitment
Backing off behaviors
What does my addiction have to do with God?
Committed and genuine relationship with God
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