Remarried with Children: Ten Secrets for Successfully Blending and Extending Your Family

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Random House Publishing Group, Sep 28, 2004 - Family & Relationships - 304 pages
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It's the most daunting task many parents will ever face: bringing two growing families together into one brand new marriage. But even though statistics show that most remarriages are at high risk--especially when there are kids involved--more and more people are learning how to make them work and more and more kids are coming out of them with their psyches and souls intact. This honest and hopeful book looks at those successes--and at some failures--to show what they have in common: ten essential secrets that are at the heart of a healthy blended family.

As a stepparent with six children in a blended family, Barbara LeBey draws on her own family's hard-won success, as well as on extensive interviews and new research to show how to navigate the stresses, sticking points, pitfalls and perils most couples don't even anticipate. Starting with her first controversial secret--that the new marriage comes first, even before the demands of the children--LeBey debunks prevalent stepfamily myths and anticipates common traps. (Among them, money issues, warring stepsiblings, and destructive exes.) A strong advocate for children (including how to guard against fade-out parenting), she also suggests ways that in-laws, schools, and the legal system itself could provide better support for blended families. REmarried with Children is an expert, compassionate, down-to-earth book to turn to over and over again for advice, support and sanity.

Key topics include how to:

-Meet your children's and stepchildren's needs--without letting them undermine your new marriage

-Understand the new roles, new rules, and the new relationships for children and stepchildren of a blended family

-Deal with angry and/or manipulative exes--without adding fuel to the fire

-Handle key decisions about finances, religion, traditions, behavior and discipline

-Maintain healthy relationships with your children's grandparents--and other relatives--from a previous marriage

-Recognize warning signs of trouble ahead--and get the help you need

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Lawyer/judge LeBey (Family Estrangements ) offers support and advice to families where remarriage has followed divorce, drawing on her own experience, that of other couples, and current research. She ... Read full review


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The Ex Factor
Remain apart ofyour childrens lives They needyou
The extended family is always with
Holidays and celebrations call for flexibility and creativity
Get money issues out in the open as soon as possible
You have the right to set the rulesfor the way people live
A Death in the Blended Family
Make civility respect and compassion the touchstones
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About the author (2004)

Barbara LeBey is a lawyer, former judge, and a wife, mother, and grandmother. Her first book, Family Estrangements, was featured in People magazine, as well as on Good Morning America and The Today Show. She lives with her husband in Atlanta, Georgia.

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