Secrets to Lasting Love: Uncovering the Keys to Life-long Intimacy

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Simon & Schuster, 2000 - Family & Relationships - 249 pages
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Gary Smalley is one of the world's foremost experts on love and relationships. In his thirty years' experience as a teacher, speaker, and counselor, Smalley has helped countless thousands of couples create more meaningful communication and ultimate intimacy using his powerful and proven methods. "Secrets to Lasting Love" is the culmination of Smalley's decades of work. Now, many more thousands of couples will benefit from his groundbreaking research outlining the three skills of successful relationships.

Smalley believes that couples who want to move from a superficial to an "ultimate," deep level of intimacy and a lasting and loving relationship must master three key skills. First and foremost is honor -- respecting your spouse for all of his or her individual qualities as well as differences from you; next is communication -- speaking to one another in a way that moves conversations into deeper realms of understanding; and, last, constant renewal -- recharging your spouse emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. But it is not easy to recognize and then apply these skills. "Secrets to Lasting Love" shows everyone how to do just that. Once these skills are successfully applied to a relationship, the couple is able to move into what Smalley calls the fifth, or ultimate, level of intimacy.

Couples who work with Smalley and who follow the principles he outlines in this book find themselves on a path to discovering deepening levels of intimacy. Learning to open up to one another, breaking through communication barriers, strengthening commitment, and being able to reach your spouse's heart and spirit are just a few of the benefits of Smalley's research and teaching.

"Secrets to Lasting Love" demonstrates how couples can build a bond that can withstand the inevitable highs and lows of marriage and move them into ever deeper levels of intimacy.

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INTRODUCTION What You Dont Know Can Hurt You
chapter two Are We in the Lowest Level
chapter three The Barren Conversation

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Gary Smalley is one of the country's best-known authors and speakers on family relationships. He is the author or coauthor of sixteen bestselling, award-winning books along with several popular films and videos. He has spent more than thirty years learning, teaching, and counseling. Gary has personally interviewed hundreds of singles and couples, and has surveyed thousands of people at his seminars, asking two questions: What is it that strengthens your relationships? And what weakens them?

Gary received his bachelor's degree in psychology from Long Beach State University in California. He has a master's degree and has received two honorary doctorate degrees in educational counseling and psychology for his thirty years of research.

Gary's books combined have sold close to 4 million copies. Several of them have been translated into several different languages. The Blessing and The Two Sides of Love have won the Golden Medallion Award for excellence in literature. The Language of Love won the Angel Award as the best contribution to family life. All the other titles have been top-five finalists for the Gold Medallion Award.

In the past ten years, Gary has spoken to more than 1 million people. His national infomercial Hidden Keys to Loving Relationships has appeared to television audiences all over the world. The eighteen-videotape series of the same name has sold more than 4 million copies.

Gary and his wife, Norma, have been married for thirty-five years and live in Branson, Missouri. They have three children -- Kari Gibson, a children's author; Dr. Greg Smalley; and Michael Smalley, a Ph.D. candidate in psychology -- and six grandchildren.

Gary Smalley's speaking schedule and video products can be found at

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