Self Matters: Creating Your Life from the Inside Out

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Simon and Schuster, May 6, 2003 - Self-Help - 314 pages
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What if there is a You that has never seen the light of day, has never got to say, "Hey, what about me?"

What if there is a You that you have never even met and certainly never permitted to just be, without fear of judgment or condemnation?

What if you live your life on the sidelines in constant fear of failing to please those who forever seem to stand in judgment of you and your life?

What if you discovered that you had settled for what life has served up instead of what you really wanted and needed?

What if you really think and feel things you have never allowed to come out, and certainly never acted on?

What if your marriage is not at all what you really emotionally want and need, but you silently stay the course anyway, selling out your hope to be happy?

What if you are allowing days to turn into weeks and weeks to turn into months and months to turn into years, all adding up to a lifetime of being what some nameless, faceless world has assigned you to be?

If any of these "What ifs" are true in your life, then we need to talk, and through these pages, we will. First, I have some bad news, and I have some good news. The bad news is you are making the choices that have put you in this life circumstance; the good news is you are making the choices that have put you in this life circumstance. Now is the time to make the biggest choice of your life. Through Self Matters, I will help you do just that.

-- Phil McGraw

 

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The well-known"life strategist" and TV personality Dr. Phil begins this upbeat self-help book by recalling one of the most unpleasant phone calls he ever had to make. In 1989, ten years into a ... Read full review

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its a great book esp if you deny the fact that you have to resolve some issues from the past controlling your future.Its a self examiner which digs the deepest hurts that need to be resolved for one to go on. i love the book.It helped me set myself free by accepting me and not blaming anyone else for whatever i have gone through.Its a must read. 

Contents

CONTENTS
1
DEFINING THE AUTHENTIC SELF
27
YOUR SELFCONCEPT
65
INTRODUCTION TO EXTERNAL FACTORS
88
YOUR TEN DEFINING MOMENTS
98
YOUR SEVEN CRITICAL CHOICES
124
YOUR FIVE PIVOTAL PEOPLE
145
INTRODUCTION TO INTERNAL FACTORS
157
Locus OF CONTROL
165
INTERNAL DIALOGUE
183
LABELS
209
LIFE SCRIPTS
224
INTRODUCTION TO THE FIVESTEP
250
PUTTING THE PLAN TO WORK
262
SABOTAGE
287
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Dr. Phil Mcgraw is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Ultimate Weight Solution, Self Matters, Life Strategies, and Relationship Rescue. He is the host of the nationally syndicated, daily one-hour series Dr. Phil. One of the world's foremost experts in the field of human functioning, Dr. McGraw is the cofounder of Courtroom Sciences, Inc., the world's leading litigation consulting firm. Dr. McGraw currently lives in Los Angeles, California, with his wife and two sons.

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