Shadow Dance: Liberating the Power and Creativity of Your Dark Side

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Shambhala Publications, 1999 - Self-Help - 270 pages
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Our "shadow" is the collection of negative or undesirable traits we keep hidden—the things we don't like about ourselves or are afraid to admit: egotist, non-"PC" proclivities, forbidden sexual desires. But it also includes our positive, untapped potential—qualities we may admire in others but disavow in ourselves. Befriending the shadow makes fear an ally and enables us to live more authentically. It also automatically improves our interpersonal relationships, because we are freed from the need to project our own negativity onto others, and we become more acutely aware when theirs is projected onto us. David Richo looks for where the shadow manifests in personal life, family interaction, religion, relationship, and the world around is. He shows how to use the gentle practice of mindfulness to work with our shadow side, and he provides numerous exercises for going deeper. He is remarkably skillful at making the shadow concept not only easy to understand, but supremely practical for enhancing the quality of our lives.

 

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Contents

Introduction
1
Our Shadow Defined
11
Afraid of Our Own Shadow
24
The Shadow of Ego
37
Creative Options Ego Offers
49
Why Is It So Hard to Let Go?
62
The Spiritual Work
70
The Mystery of the Self and Its Shadow
78
The Shadow of Relationship
184
The Dark Side of Anger
191
Healthy Anger versus Retaliation
197
The Life Span of the False Self
208
Freedom from Falseness
220
Our Shadow Befriended
229
Honoring Both Sides of the Coin of Ourselves
235
Ready for a Look in the Mirror
244

An Easterly Direction
87
When Light Meets Limit
108
Our Negative Shadow
118
How Karma Works
126
News and Entertainment
133
How We Project Our Denial
149
Our Shadow Displayed
162
Family Strains
169
A Gentle Work
250
Followup Steps in Befriending
258
The Graces of Befriending
273
Earth and I
284
Between Fear and Desire
293
Behind Appearances
303
Jacobs Ladder
317
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David Richo, PhD, is a psychotherapist, teacher, writer, and workshop leader whose work emphasizes the benefits of mindfulness and loving-kindness in personal growth and emotional well-being. He is the author of numerous books, including How to Be an Adult in Relationships and The Five Things We Cannot Change. He lives in Santa Barbara and San Francisco, California.

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