Shut Up and Dance!: The Joy of Letting Go of the Lead-On the Dance Floor and Off

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Penguin, Sep 15, 2011 - Family & Relationships - 240 pages
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Why it really does take two to tango . . .

At forty-five, Jamie Rose was an independent, take-charge woman whose career as an actress was going nicely, with frequent roles on hit television shows and in films. Yet there was one area of her life that wasn't working: her love life. She'd been living with her boyfriend for five years, and although she was ready to get married, he wasn't. His reason? They fought too much-and unfortunately, he was right. But something magical happened when she signed up for tango lessons: She began to appreciate the power of being a partner in a dance for two-and that letting someone else take the lead from time to time wasn't giving up, but rather, letting go. In this funny and wise book, Rose shares with readers the life lessons she's learned from tango and the other great partner dance traditions.

Dance changed Rose's life, and she discovered that she wasn't the only one. Over and over, the women she encountered at dance halls-women from age twenty to ninety-three-told her how falling in love with dance helped them fall in love with life again. The secret? Whereas before they may have worried that if they let go of their grip on things for a moment, everything would fall apart, now they knew that sometimes letting go of the lead was the best way to keep things together-especially in a relationship.

For anyone who has ever marveled at Fred and Ginger up on the silver screen (how could they be so in sync?), Shut Up & Dance shows readers how to dance their way into a happier, sexier life-even if they never step onto a dance floor.

 

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A book that combines two things that interest me, dancing and relationship advice. As a dancer for most of my childhood and teen years, I love dancing more than most things. I may admit to watching Dancing with the Stars and just wishing that I was a former star, so I could grace that stage with the costumes and dance combinations. So when I heard about a book that uses dance as a platform to convey relationship advice, I was more than intrigued.
From the beginning, she had me hooked because I felt like she was talking about me - hard headed, stubborn and a woman who wants to find herself in control all of the time - yep that's me! Thankful for my single years, which made me who I am, they may have also made me a little more self sufficient and needing of control. Through her book, I realized that following the boy's "lead" doesn't mean I am giving up control, it just means we are moving together as a unit as we should be.
I would absolutely recommend this book to the ladies of my generation who had a time being single and may have become used to being in control of all the decisions of their lives. We are a generation that didn't go straight from college to married life, but instead we are creating our own homes before we get into relationships - because of this we may not be the most accomodating to "someone" invading our homes and lives!
 

Contents

MY GUY
I WILL NOT FOLLOW YOU ANYWHERE
MOMMY DEAREST
JUST SAY YES
LOVE JUNKIE
I COULD LIVE IN A YURT BUT I DONT REALLY WANT TO
FROM DOORMAT TO GODDESS
DO YOU BELIEVE IN MAGIC?
YOU TALKIN TO ME?
SHALL WE DATE?
FOUL WEATHER FRIENDS
I SAY TOMATO AND YOU SAY YOURE TOO TALL FOR ME
BEWARE OF FEEDBACK
DANCE A TANDA
BE THE GUY YOUR MOTHER ALWAYS WANTED YOU TO MARRY
PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT

THE VIEW TANGO STYLE
THE SCARVES AND TURTLENECK YEARS
IM TALKING SO LOUD I CANT HEAR WHAT YOURE SAYING
A MAN CAN HANDLE HIS OWN MEATBALLS
IF ITS HYSTERICAL ITS HISTORICAL
REPEAT AFTER ME
IF YOU DONT TRY TO FIX ITYOUJUSTMAY FIND OUT THAT IT WORKS
SHALL WE DANCE?
ITS OK TO WEAR YOUR HEART ON YOUR SLEEVE
TEA FOR TWO
WHAT ARE YOU DANCING ABOUT?
KING OF THE ROAD
ALWAYS WORK THE CONTEXT WITH THE CONTENT
THE SECRET TO GETTING WHAT YOU WANT FROM A MAN FOR WOMEN ONLY
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Jamie Rose has been a professional actor for more than thirty- five years. Probably best known for her regular role as Vickie Gioberti in the 1980s prime-time hit Falcon Crest, most recently she has had lead roles in multiple films and numerous television shows, including ER, NYPD Blue, House, and Two and a Half Men. She owns her own acting studio, JRose Studio, and has taught Dramatic Literature and Theater Arts courses for California State University, Northridge. An avid social dancer, Rose is passionate about the Argentine tango, and particularly passionate about tango shoes. She also enjoys West Coast swing, Lindy, salsa, Texas two-step, and basically anything that includes great music and sweating. She has been in love with the same man for more than thirteen years, and has been married to him for the past five, she lives in Los Angeles with him, their cat, Fenway, and approximately twenty-five pairs of tango shoes.

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