Still with Me: A Daughter's Journey of Love and Loss

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Simon and Schuster, 2003 - Biography & Autobiography - 245 pages
Andrea King Collier has used her mother's valiant but losing battle with ovarian cancer to write an honest, funny, empowering book that has relevance to anybody, anywhere, who has loved and lost a parent. And with it, she also deliberately breaks new ground in the African-American community by openly discussing cancer and terminal illness.

On Andrea's ninth wedding anniversary, her mother called and said simply, "They think I have cancer." A year later, nearly to the day, her mother died. In the intervening twelve months, Andrea took on the enormous role of caregiver and principal support system while juggling the needs of her own children and husband. She became both a clearinghouse for cancer information and her mother's chief advocate regarding her medical care, but she never stopped being the daughter of an outspoken, independent woman who insisted on confronting her illness on her own terms. She soon found out that all the stuff that mothers and daughters carry around for years doesn't just disappear because cancer shows up.

Andrea Collier's voice is that of a best friend who shares the frustrations, anger, and setbacks of a family dealing with a terminal illness. And she candidly describes how both she and her mother were sustained and transformed by their mutual love and devotion.

Whether navigating the maze of diagnosis, treatment, and quality of care, or finding joy in the everyday dramas of being a mommy to two little children or searching for ways to go back to "normal" after the loss of a loved one, Collier writes with honesty, humor, and hope. "Still with Me" is a love letter to all mothers and daughters.


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Health writer and consultant Collier describes with loving frankness her mother's last year. A single mother in the disapproving 1950s, Earline Comer was a strict disciplinarian with strong ideas ... Read full review

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This is more than just a memoir about a daughter dealing with her mother's terminal illness. It is also the story of a strong yet complex mother-daughter relationship. The reader joins Collier as she ... Read full review

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About the author (2003)

Andrea King Collier is in demand as a speaker and writer on family and health care issues including prevention, women's health, and end-of-life issues. She lives in Lansing, Michigan, with her husband and children.

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