Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder

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New Harbinger Publications, Jan 1, 2010 - Self-Help - 288 pages
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Do you feel manipulated, controlled, or lied to? Are you the focus of intense, violent, and irrational rages? Do you feel as though you are constantly trying to avoid confrontation?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you should remember this: It’s not your fault. And you’re not alone. In fact, the person you care about may have traits associated with borderline personality disorder (BPD), such as emotion dysregulation, impulsive behavior, unstable sense of self, and difficulty with interpersonal relationships. No matter how much you want to be there for your loved one, at times it can feel like you are walking on eggshells.

This compassionate guide will enable you to:

  • Make sense out of the chaos
  • Stand up for yourself and assert your needs
  • Defuse arguments and conflicts
  • Protect yourself and others from violent behavior

Stop Walking on Eggshells has already helped nearly half a million people with friends and family members suffering from BPD understand this destructive disorder, set boundaries, and help their loved ones stop relying on dangerous BPD behaviors. This fully revised edition has been updated with the very latest BPD research and includes coping and communication skills you can use to stabilize your relationship with the BPD sufferer in your life.


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Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder

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This updated text from Mason and Kreger-well-known contributors to the borderline personality disorder (BPD) literature-offers a wealth of information and support for loved ones. Initial chapters ... Read full review

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excellent book. ever scratch you head and try to understand what just happened this book will help you understand that its not your fault and that youre not crazy. trust me... you will better ... Read full review


Does Someone You Care about Have BPD?
Defining BPD
Understanding BPD Behavior
How BPD Behavior Affects NonBPs
Making Changes Within Yourself
Asserting Your Needs with Confidence and Clarity
Create a Safety Plan
Protecting Children from BPD Behavior
Your Borderline Child
Distortion Campaigns
What Now? Making Decisions about Your Relationship
Appendix A

Setting Boundaries and Honing Skills

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Paul T. Mason, MS, is vice president of clinical services at Wheaton Franciscan Healthcare in Racine, WI. Under his leadership, the mental health and addiction care service line has expanded the number of inpatient services and outpatient programs it provides for patients, family members, and loved ones affected by borderline personality disorder (BPD). His research on BPD has been published in the Journal of Clinical Psychology and his written work has appeared in the news and print media.

Randi Kreger has brought the concerns of family members who have a loved one with BPD to an international forefront through her website,, and the Welcome to Oz online support community. Through Eggshells Press, she offers family members a wide variety of more specialized booklets and other materials. She was also instrumental in the formation of the Personality Disorders Awareness Network (PDAN), a not-for-profit organization. Kreger is author of The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook and The Essential Family Member Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder. She speaks and gives workshops about BPD internationally.

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