That's Not What I Meant!: How Conversational Style Makes or Breaks Relationships
At home, on the job, in a personal relationship, it's often not what you say but how you say it that counts.
Deborah Tannen revolutionized our thinking about relationships between women and men in her #1 bestseller You Just Don't Understand. In That's Not What I Meant!, the internationally renowned sociolinguist and expert on communication demonstrates how our conversational signals—voice level, pitch and intonation, rhythm and timing, even the simple turns of phrase we choose—are powerful factors in the success or failure of any relationship. Regional speech characteristics, ethnic and class backgrounds, age, and individual personality all contribute to diverse conversational styles that can lead to frustration and misplaced blame if ignored—but provide tools to improve relationships if they are understood.
At once eye-opening, astute, and vastly entertaining, Tannen's classic work on interpersonal communication will help you to hear what isn't said and to recognize how your personal conversational style meshes or clashes with others. It will give you a new understanding of communication that will enable you to make the adjustments that can save a conversation . . . or a relationship.
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LibraryThing ReviewUser Review - lycomayflower - LibraryThing
Does what it says on the tin. A somewhat interesting look at how individual ways of speaking can cause and exasperate misunderstandings in conversation. Only somewhat interesting because it reads like ... Read full review
LibraryThing ReviewUser Review - RajivC - LibraryThing
I read this book through reasonably fast, and the only reason why I could do this, was because the book was written in a manner that is easy to read. The points that she raised are fantastic, and I ... Read full review
THE WORKINGS OF CONVERSATIONAL srvuz
CONVERSATXONAL SIGNALS AND DEVICES
WHY we 1oNr SAY WHAT we MEAN
FRAMING AND REFRAMING
IN CLOSE RELATIONSHIPS
THE INTIMATE GRITIC
WHAT YOU CAN AND CANT