That's not what I meant!: how conversational style makes or breaks your relations with others

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Morrow, 1986 - Family & Relationships - 214 pages
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" We are, all of us, foreigners to each other: editor and writer, man and woman, Californian and New Yorker, friend and friend. Dr. Tannen shows us how different we are, and how to speak the same language." Jack RosenthalPultizer Prize winner and editorTHE NEW YORK TIMESDeborah Tannen, who revolutionaized our thinking about relationships between women and men in her bestsller YOU JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND, shows that conversational confusion between the sexes is only part of the picture. In THAT'S NOT WHAT I MEANT!, Dr. Tannen shows that growing up in different parts of the country, having different ethnic and class backgrounds, even age and indvidual personality, all contribute to different conversational styles. Entertaining and informative, this is an essential complement to psychological theories of human behavior. No one who has read Deborah Tannen's fascinating look at women and men will want to miss a word of it!

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That's not what I meant!: how conversational style makes or breaks your relations with others / Deborah Tannen

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Tannen, whose field is cross-cultural linguistics, focuses on conversational style rather than psychological content, and explains why good intentions are not enough. We begin all conversations with ... Read full review

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worth reading for ideas about metamessages, framing amd complementary schismogenesis - but I found much of it quite famliar already Read full review

Contents

THE PROBLEM IS THE PROCESS
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CONVERSATIONAL SIGNALS AND DEVICES
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WHY WE DONT SAY WHAT WE MEAN
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DEBORAH TANNEN is the acclaimed author of "You Just Don't Understand", which was on the "New York Times" bestseller list for nearly four years; the "New York Times" bestseller on mother-daughter communication "You're Wearing THAT?; I Only Say This Because I Love You"; and many other books. A professor of linguistics at Georgetown University, she appears frequently on national television and radio. The youngest of three sisters, she lives with her husband in the Washington, DC area.

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