That's not what I meant!: how conversational style makes or breaks relationships

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Ballantine Books, 1986 - Family & Relationships - 209 pages
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"We are, all of us, foreigners to each other: editor and writer, man and woman, Californian and New Yorker, friend and friend. Dr. Tannen shows us how different we are, and how to speak the same language."
Jack Rosenthal
Pultizer Prize winner and editor
Deborah Tannen, who revolutionaized our thinking about relationships between women and men in her bestsller YOU JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND, shows that conversational confusion between the sexes is only part of the picture. In THAT'S NOT WHAT I MEANT!, Dr. Tannen shows that growing up in different parts of the country, having different ethnic and class backgrounds, even age and indvidual personality, all contribute to different conversational styles. Entertaining and informative, this is an essential complement to psychological theories of human behavior. No one who has read Deborah Tannen's fascinating look at women and men will want to miss a word of it!

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User Review  - lycomayflower - LibraryThing

Does what it says on the tin. A somewhat interesting look at how individual ways of speaking can cause and exasperate misunderstandings in conversation. Only somewhat interesting because it reads like ... Read full review

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User Review  - RajivC - LibraryThing

I read this book through reasonably fast, and the only reason why I could do this, was because the book was written in a manner that is easy to read. The points that she raised are fantastic, and I ... Read full review


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Deborah Tannen is author of "You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation" (a "New York Times" bestseller nearly four years), "That's Not What I Meant!: How Conversational Style Makes or Breaks Relationships, "and many other books and articles. University Professor and professor of linguistics at Georgetown University, she has also been McGraw Distinguished Lecturer at Princeton University.