The Angry Child: Regaining Control When Your Child Is Out of Control

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Potter/Ten Speed/Harmony/Rodale, Apr 28, 2010 - Family & Relationships - 272 pages
Every child has an off day when nothing seems to go right, but for some, angry outbursts, frustration, and resentment are the norm. When a child's anger threatens to jeopardize his school and social life and introduces an element of strain into the family dynamics that affects every member, it's time for a parent to ask: When is angry too angry?

Child psychologist Dr. Tim Murphy has addressed this very question with hundreds of families, helping them to understand both the causes and the repercussions of childhood anger and to devise effective strategies for defusing the time bomb in their midst. Whether it's a toddler staging a tantrum, a grade-schooler unable to make friends, or a sulking preteen who greets every adult request with antagonism, parents of angry children are baffled by both the depth and the root of their child's unhappiness. And when small social problems and household disputes regularly escalate into full-fledged battles, it's nearly impossible for parents to distance themselves enough from the situation to find a perspective that will remedy it.

With simple, direct techniques, Dr. Murphy shows it is possible to help an angry child understand what triggers his outbursts and develop new approaches for coping with potentially explosive situations. Identifying the ten telling characteristics of an angry child, Dr. Murphy provides examples from his clinical experience to help adults guide their children to more appropriate responses. Dr. Murphy also alerts readers to parenting styles that work best for these volatile children, explaining how a parent's own behavior can sometimes escalate a child's meltdowns. He pinpoints the moments when anger moves from a normal emotional expression to an extreme one, indicative of a larger problem. In a special chapter devoted to winning daily battles, Dr. Murphy offers advice on situations in which an angry child's temper is most likely to flare.

The Angry Child is destined to be a classic. With real solutions for the concerns of millions of parents, Dr. Murphy offers answers and hope for the families and educators of unhappy children of all ages.

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Wow I'm not done with the book but for starters I was able to feel like someone could relate to our struggle with our teenage son and we were not alone. (Deep breath) I feel hopeful and have a place to start. Read full review

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This is a thoughtful and thought-provoking book with great explanations of why children act out in anger and ways to deal with the behavior as a family. I read it cover-to-cover, and have already ... Read full review


Chapter Three
Chapter Four
Chapter Five
Strategies for Coping with and Preventing Anger
Chapter Eight
Chapter Nine
Chapter Eleven
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About the author (2010)

Tim Murphy, Ph.D., was an assistant professor of pediatrics at the University of Pittsburgh School of Medicine/Children's Hospital of Pittsburgh and is presently on the adjunct faculty of the school. Since 1996, Dr. Murphy has been a member of the Pennsylvania State Senate and is the only representative with a background in health care. He has served on numerous committees concerned with public health and welfare, education, aging, and youth, and he makes regular appearances on television and radio. Dr. Murphy lives in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, with his wife and daughter. This is his first book.

Loriann Hoff Oberlin is the author of four previous books, including Working at Home While the Kids Are There, Too and Surviving Separation and Divorce: A Woman's Guide to Making It Through the First Year, and contributes to national magazines in a variety of areas. Ms. Oberlin has two sons.

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